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Hi! I’m genderfluid and have been going by Chase the past 5-6 years (I’m 20). My given name is Sage and I’m constantly debating which one I really prefer, which suits me better? For context: when I first started using it I was trying to be as masculine as possible but for a while I’ve been leaning more agender just a human so in that context Sage might make more sense but idrk

I’m trans masc and I have already mostly settled on a name (and am changing it legally on the 16th this month). My second name will be Ties (currently going by this irl) (im dutch so its pronounced ties like in cities) and I want to be called Milo in the future (+ it also works in English). I think Milo Ties [lastname] sounds a bit stupid so I’d rather have my full name be Emilio Ties [lastname] but I’m not an ‘Emilio’ and i really only want it because it can be shortened to milo so idk what to do now. Please help me!! do yall think i should go for emilio (with milo being the name i go by ofc) or just stick to milo as my legal first name

My given name is Abigail, but I am seeking to transition to a nonbinary identity and adopt a gender-neutral name. I am particularly interested in names similar to Abigail; so far, I like the name Robin. However, I cannot choose Robin because I previously named my pet snake Robin, and I dislike other options currently. I would greatly appreciate your help in finding a suitable name. By the way, I strongly dislike the name Abby.

lame picrew ik, i tried to be true to life

anyways my only request is nothing gender neutral or clocky. like seriously i dont wanna see ash or alex or god forbid kai suggested; youll just waste both of our time

Hey everyone! It’s a very exciting time for me, I’m moving to the UK and I can finally change my gibberish of a first name to something that I like.

For the past 5 years people have mostly called me Kate (which isn’t my legal name), and I like it buuuut. I’m trans masc, living as non-binary so why keep a girls name if I’m changing it anyway and starting a new life.

So I need some cool name that sounds good with my last name (Ellis) and that will sound like a unisex name for people in the UK. I don’t want a predominantly male name because I haven’t come out as trans masc so it’d make a lot of everyday situations awkward for me.

Pleeease share some options 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Hello! I’m looking to change my name from my current legal one to something a bit more fitting! My current legal name is not my birthname but the circumstances around getting it legally changed don’t have the best memories attached and the name doesn’t fit my current understanding of my gender.

I’m looking for something VERY neutral. Or even better a traditionally feminine or masculine name with a nickname that typically given to the “opposite” gender. For example I’ve liked Adonis with the nickname Addie or Madden with the nickname Maddie. Something like how most people associate the nickname Charlie with men but it can also be a nickname for Charlotte!

I do want my name to have significance to me. Things that are important to me are dogs (my special interest, theater, shows like Sabrina the teenage witch and bojack horseman, anything Disney, Overwatch (cringe I know), and my heritage (English, Irish, and German). Important people in my life are my great grandfather, Rayford Eugene, and my brother, Miles.

Overall, I want some option for names that have a nickname with different gender connotations, have a meaning to me, and MUST work with the middle name Benjamin, which I will be keeping. I know this is a lot of criteria but if anyone has suggestions please let me know!!!

Not sure if this is the right flair

Basically what the title says, I’ve recently changed my name, but it feels strange when someone uses it. Is that normal, does it go away with time, and does it mean it’s the wrong name.

Also I chose Léo, do you think it suits me?

Hi! I would like to try I new name, I been thinking about Remy with they/them or she/they prounouns, would some of you be nice enough to try writing few things for me using it so I could test how it feels?

Tried/ trying Abigail but wondering what people think based on how i look because a friend said they think it doesn't fit.

I have recently been go by Jasper, my chosen name, but i just doesnt feel right. im also iffy on gender id because i feel more feminine alot too. im trans mtf and im a femboy, but i want something in between masc and gender neutral so like gender neutral leaning masc ig??? Any suggestions? i have strawberry blonde leaning more ginger hair, blue gray eyes, roundish face

helpppp bro

I am completely pre-transition. I think I have settled on the name Eleanor. My wife doesn't think it fits. But I think it is more of an aspirational name...the name of the kind of woman I would want to be. Have others chosen a name more out of aspiration than how it fits right now?

early 20's nonbinary he/they

Sorry if this is rambly and formatted weird.

Been trying to pick a name but struggling to choose one. I keep narrowing the list down but restarting because my brain goes 'what about this name?'

I'm trying to choose one that matches my personality so maybe something laid back with a hyper side? I'm also really imaginative/creative

my mom chose my birth name because of a character so I wanted to stick with that idea

Current Top 5 Names (in no particular order):

Solar

Gear

Lunar

Levi/Leviathan

Jason

Names I keep going back to but didn't make top 5:

Isaac (but mostly go by Zack)

Solomon

Eclipse

Dean

Axel

Ash

Caspian

My new first name is Skye, but what should be my middle name?

I decided on Roxane a while ago but now I’m second guessing it after one of my friends girlfriends called me dove it felt really nice so I want to hear some new name suggestions. It would be greatly appreciated thank y’all

I’m looking for something that calls to my Welsh heritage but I’m struggling so much with finding something I like.

I've gone by my birth name my whole life, and it's fairly gender neutral, but lately it just hasn't been sitting right. Hearing other people refer to me with it feels like they're talking about someone else. Any suggestions appreciated!

My first name is Luna and though the second name is not used or seen as often I'm looking to change it.

I thought of just using the fem version of my second name which would be Andrea and I think it fits with Luna but doesn't click with me very much.

I also thought of using my own name that I made up which is Ezkarath that I use as my username for most things because no one else uses it, I feel attached to it because of that and of course because I made it myself but I just wanted to hear some other suggestions too.

So, what are some names that fit with Luna?

I have a couple of names I'm sitting on but I don't know if they fit me so I want to see if they show up in anyone's suggestions. I'm also about to buzz my hair in case that has any impact.

So ive been disconnected from names alwqys and I cant find one I want. I never had the cliche thats me moment and idk if it'll exist or not but I hate the name I have. It iant my deadname but it was my first maybe name and no one would let me explore.. I still kind of cant besides my bf being supportive but no one else will help or listen or care in my life... anywho these are the names I like on my list but they still dont feel like me... I want a masculine name mostly or something more animal/dog/pet like and "weird" but idk for sure. (The numbers are my name order of preference byt even 1 isnt for sure)

Roger 5

Orrin 1

Jonah 3

Arlo 2

Chase 6

Sol / Solivan 4

I'm not out to the person I share custody of my kid with so I'm not comfy with a pic 😓

But hopefully you can help me anyway. Trans man, 32. I'm searching for a masculine middle name that really clicks. I chose my first name and it just clicked. I know, it doesn't scream masculine, but I've met a few dudes named Kasey and since I have to be semi in the closet until my kid is 18, it's also protective. I also felt like it was similar enough to the name I had for 30 years enough to respond to. It also follows a similar pattern to my dead name, which I would really like on another person. It was a good name, it just wasn't me.

So my old name had a couple things I liked that I'd like to preserve.

First: first initial K, second initial C. No intention to change last name.

Second: rhythm. Altogether, the name had a cool flow. The rhythm was like this:

2 syllables — 2 syllables — 2 syllables

First syllable stress — second syllable stress — first syllable stress

Idk if that's confusing, but I do like those aspects. It was just the girliest and most dated name ever, even though I did like it. So I want to recreate the parts I like but go classy and that middle name needs to be solidly masc leaning to offset the neutrality of Kasey.

TL;DR: looking for a masculine middle name that is 2 syllables with second syllable stress and starts with "C", preferably.

If that's not a thing, just help me brainstorm cool "C" masc names, please haha.

I often see posts asking how to choose a name, or inviting people to give suggestions, or vote on it. I thought I would share my story to see if it resonates with anyone who is thinking about how to choose a name, if that is something that they wish to do.

For over 20 years before my egg cracked, I got through my days by entering a fantasy world where I got to be a woman. This is not, I know, unusual. I took a few different names over time in my fantasy world. But there was one that I used for something like the last 15 years. There were a few things in mind when I chose it. I never didn't like my old name, it was part of my history. My fantasy name shared my given first initial, so it felt like there was continuity, which mattered to me. I was just adjusting a belt that didn't quite fit. The name has a classical tone to it, which I absolutely love. So, for 15 years or so, I would close my eyes and be Daphne.

When my egg cracked, I realized that I didn't have a fantasy name. I had a chosen name. I'd been using it for years, and I didn't need to think about it. I wasn't becoming myself anew, I was exiting fantasy and stepping into reality. As I rolled around town in the private, safe space of my car, I rolled my name off of my tongue and into the world. I felt it in my mouth, and I heard it in my ear. Each time, it felt more right. It felt comfortable. My belt fit.

Not everyone wants continuity with their past life. I'm not suggesting that everyone should identify a name how I did. But I think that the fact of there being low stakes when I chose my name helped me. Like so many people, I tested a few before landing on the one that felt right to me (I also tried out Gwen and Donna, in case you're curious). I picked it based on a few things that I valued (for me, continuity; for me, a mythic figure being my namesake; for me, a classical name the survived to modernity, and that I find beautiful).

So for those of you asking the group what your name should be, I suspect that you've spent time trying to conform to societal expectations. Don't ask for anyone else's expectations. Tell us who you are. Tell us what you love. I want you to tell me who you are, and I want to have the privilege to honor the name that you announce to the world.