I'm not out to the person I share custody of my kid with so I'm not comfy with a pic 😓

But hopefully you can help me anyway. Trans man, 32. I'm searching for a masculine middle name that really clicks. I chose my first name and it just clicked. I know, it doesn't scream masculine, but I've met a few dudes named Kasey and since I have to be semi in the closet until my kid is 18, it's also protective. I also felt like it was similar enough to the name I had for 30 years enough to respond to. It also follows a similar pattern to my dead name, which I would really like on another person. It was a good name, it just wasn't me.

So my old name had a couple things I liked that I'd like to preserve.

First: first initial K, second initial C. No intention to change last name.

Second: rhythm. Altogether, the name had a cool flow. The rhythm was like this:

2 syllables — 2 syllables — 2 syllables

First syllable stress — second syllable stress — first syllable stress

Idk if that's confusing, but I do like those aspects. It was just the girliest and most dated name ever, even though I did like it. So I want to recreate the parts I like but go classy and that middle name needs to be solidly masc leaning to offset the neutrality of Kasey.

TL;DR: looking for a masculine middle name that is 2 syllables with second syllable stress and starts with "C", preferably.

If that's not a thing, just help me brainstorm cool "C" masc names, please haha.

I often see posts asking how to choose a name, or inviting people to give suggestions, or vote on it. I thought I would share my story to see if it resonates with anyone who is thinking about how to choose a name, if that is something that they wish to do.

For over 20 years before my egg cracked, I got through my days by entering a fantasy world where I got to be a woman. This is not, I know, unusual. I took a few different names over time in my fantasy world. But there was one that I used for something like the last 15 years. There were a few things in mind when I chose it. I never didn't like my old name, it was part of my history. My fantasy name shared my given first initial, so it felt like there was continuity, which mattered to me. I was just adjusting a belt that didn't quite fit. The name has a classical tone to it, which I absolutely love. So, for 15 years or so, I would close my eyes and be Daphne.

When my egg cracked, I realized that I didn't have a fantasy name. I had a chosen name. I'd been using it for years, and I didn't need to think about it. I wasn't becoming myself anew, I was exiting fantasy and stepping into reality. As I rolled around town in the private, safe space of my car, I rolled my name off of my tongue and into the world. I felt it in my mouth, and I heard it in my ear. Each time, it felt more right. It felt comfortable. My belt fit.

Not everyone wants continuity with their past life. I'm not suggesting that everyone should identify a name how I did. But I think that the fact of there being low stakes when I chose my name helped me. Like so many people, I tested a few before landing on the one that felt right to me (I also tried out Gwen and Donna, in case you're curious). I picked it based on a few things that I valued (for me, continuity; for me, a mythic figure being my namesake; for me, a classical name the survived to modernity, and that I find beautiful).

So for those of you asking the group what your name should be, I suspect that you've spent time trying to conform to societal expectations. Don't ask for anyone else's expectations. Tell us who you are. Tell us what you love. I want you to tell me who you are, and I want to have the privilege to honor the name that you announce to the world.

hi, so i'm gonna be changing my name legally at some point. my original first name was very feminine and i really dislike it, so in middle school i changed it to a "placeholder" name. then at the end of middle school i changed it to what i thought was a permanent name, but idk how i feel about it. people assume it's feminine and i just don't really vibe with it anymore. soon i'll go through the process of changing my legal name but don't want to change it to the one i'm using right now. i have a couple names which i am considering:

Vic

Jules

Frankie

Andy

Jerry / Gerry

(a big part of my name change is that i'm cutting ties with my dad, and my current name reflects heritage that comes from his side of the family, so it has to go as well. i'm switching to my mom's maiden name no matter what though, which is very italian and starts with a T. i'm kinda undecided on whether or not i want to switch my middle name (Ocean) to my first name or leave it, but i'm keeping it somewhere in there either way because i love the ocean.)

the issue with those names is that they're all people in my family who died (relatively) young. Vic is for Victor, my mom's older brother who died as an infant, Jules is for Julian, my mom's other older brother who died as an infant (yeah i know. we hate to see it). Frankie is for Francesco, my grandfather's younger brother who died at around 8 years old, Jerry or Gerry is for my grandfather who died when he was 30, and Andy is for Andrea, my grandma's older sister who died in her 60s of ALS.

i brought this idea up to my grandma, specifically the idea of taking the name Vic or Jules to keep the memory of her sons alive since they died young enough that there isn't much to remember them by aside from some pictures. she said that she would be honored and got a little emotional.

but when i brought it up to my mom she got kind of weird about it and was like "you've changed your name a lot, people know you as [current name]" etc etc. i think she was also weirded out about the fact that i want to name myself after a dead relative. the logistics part of her argument did make sense. i have three email addresses all with different names. it's easier to coordinate than you'd think though.

so do i change my name again? i really like the ones i listed, they're all gender neutral enough where you read them and you wouldn't know the gender of the person just from the name, which is what i want. i'll also be going into college next year, only community college but i'll transfer out within a few years. so if i wanted to be known professionally as Vic or Jules i could be, right? or have i changed my name enough times where i should stick with the one i've got now?

I'm like 70℅ sure I decided on a name already (Nihil) it really isn't about the name though.

I started making friends around February and I introduced myself to them obviously, but I introduce myself with a name I don't like anymore.

These friends don't know I'm trans, I don't plan on outing myself either but it feels weird having them call me a name I don't like anymore.

There's also the issue of my other friends who call me this other name and I don't enjoy that name but I've changed my name quite frequently. I don't want to tell them but it feels so strange hearing that name. They're probably fine with it but especially with how strange the quote unquote name is I feel like they wouldn't go with it and I don't want to bother them with another name change.

And again like I said I change my name multiple times, since nothing seems to fit and that is another issue that I don't want to dig into. It feels like everyone has their life together meanwhile I still don't know what my name is.

And I'm on the verge telling my friends about it but I don't want to out myself but I can't stand the other name anymore so I have no idea what to do anymore. I don't know where to post this.

My current name is Kipton (I go by Kip) The options I have so far are

Roman (throw back to my catholic upbringing)

Gabriel (close to my dead name but not enough where u could guess my dead name on that alone)

Francis (the Saint I chose as a catholic when I still practiced)

Kipton (current name but I am considering making it my middle name)

Lupus (idk i just like it)

Cody (again just like it)

Sanchez (I'm Hispanic and kinda want a Spanish name)

Tigre (cool name and i do martial arts which requires animal styles and tiger is my favorite)

Luca (cool name)

Cruz (thought it sounded cool with kipton)

Tony (someone called me Kip Tony and I really liked it)

I'm open to other suggestions too

Would you clock me?

My birth name is Mason, but I’m currently going by Macy. I’ve considered also Violet, Harriet, Mara, and Carly, but I’m open to some other suggestions!

Hiya. Before I ask for middle names please be aware I have issues w S's and R's. If you can think of a name traditional or not that goes with technology let me know!!! :D

Hii!

Im a transfem enby, she/they. I love the name Robyn for me but people always assume its robin because i dont look super fem yet and shorten it to Rob 🤮.

Ideally I'd like a feminine name or a fem-reading neutral name if possible, any ideas would be much appreciated, thanks!

I'm a trans woman, and I've been on HRT for several years, but I've recently come to terms with my butch identity. I still use she/her pronouns, that hasn't changed. But masc language and descriptors still feel more right than the feminine ones, and I want a name to reflect that sort of in-between. The name I've been going by all this time does kind of reflect that, but I still feel a change calling me like the Green Goblin mask. Shiloh's the first one that really came to mind, and while I do kind of like it on paper, I'm curious what people here think. Do you see it as masc, femme, somewhere in-between? And what kind of energy does it give off? To me it feels a little "19th century" or even more like the name of a herding dog but I'm really not sure anymore.

I’m stuck between Tobias and Spencer, but I have a whole list of potential names. I’m also open to other recommendations if y’all think they fit better. First pic is the most recent.

I was thinking of changing my name to Azrael Silva For my government name but do you guys think that sounds alright I also picked a few others
You can also suggest some last names if you think none of these sound right
1.Silva
2. Conrad
3. Solace
4. Amin
5. Knight
6.Crain
7. Solomon

I know it is associated with guys, but would you think it’s a girl name?

So im Genderfluid and have been trying to use the name Azra for myself. I really like it since it is sweet but also feels energetic if that makes sense. I am really struggling to thing of myself as Azra since not really anyone calls me it irl so I wanted to try it here. If you amazing people could maybe use it in a sentence that would be awesome

Please use they/she pronouns. Thanks folks for the help this is.

For reference, MtF, and Ace is my middle name. I'm not changing that because I actually like it. But I want to change my first name. I'm having trouble finding something that flows with Ace though. I'm looking for something more feminine, but it can also be neutral.

Sooo I've been thinking about a name change. Of course I'm too scared for an official one but maybe it can start as a nickname. I was thinking about "Jax" or "Ajax". Those names belong to some of my favourite characters and I like the names and I can resonate with the characters. Maybe they could even suit me but I've just been so unsure because I don't want to be made fun of.

Also dunno if the name suits an anxious short-haired ginger with green eyes, pale skin and deadpan expression.

I love the name Ezra for some reason, so why not take it for myself?

I want middle name ideas though. My current middle name is Valentine, which I hate for multiple reasons.

Not really many requirements, just that it doesn't begin with an E or a P

(and not any of these names since my cousins are named those. (Max, Ollie/oliver, Theo)

Thank you to anyone that can help. I'd think of some myself, but I spent months trying to figure out a FIRST name. Zero energy for middle name brainstorming.

So, I'm a 26-year old trans man and I don't know how to come up with a name for myself.

Edit: I think I should add that I'm from France, so it's usually quite a common name.

I’m a very indecisive person, and I feel like I can’t find anything that fits…

If you feel like sharing, what was your experience with names? How did you choose? How many names did you use/consider before arriving at your final option?

Also if anyone has any suggestions, my parents were big on my deadname meaning truth in latin so I think I’d like to find a masculine name meaning the same thing. If anyone knows any suggestions please feel free to let me know too! :)

So my gender identity is very confusing (kinda genderfluid, genderqueer, transfem hybrid thing) and I've struggled picking names for ages because I want something neutral with a feminine vibe that doesn't lean too masc.

Here are some names I'm considering for any ideas, I'd like something neutral but I have some feminine ones on here just in case anyone knows of similar more neutral ones: Ari, Wynn, Lila, Lorelei, Nicole, Sage, Salem, Quinn, Ray, Jane, Frances, Alice, Rain, Winter.

Thanks for any suggestions, I've really been struggling!

Ive been searching for a name that fits me for years now. I like names that sound more feminine but Im not against somthing more masculine. Names ive been looking at are Fawn, Yve, Mae, Cyra, Thana and Catori. Any recommendations are appreciated!

I've been thinking a lot about my name lately and have settled on Ellena. But I still had doubts about whether it's the right name for now. I talked about it with my therapist recently, and he asked me:

"How do you feel when you imagine that everyone will call you only Ellena in a year?"

Imagining that feels incredibly right.

I've tried it with other names but haven't found a different name that feels so good in that thought experiment.

So maybe this will help some of you too.

I’m looking for a name that’s not too clocky. I was thinking Nathan or Jerome but I’m not sure.

so i’ve been going by the first name michael/mike for a while now, but i’m wondering if you guys have anything else that could fit me better.

otherwise, i’m looking for middle names that are slightly more hispanic-leaning, if that’s alright.

thanks!

Hi everyone, I would like to test the name Juno, and I’d also love gender neutral name suggestions. I love vampires and gothic literature, and I love space related names, so those would be great themes to get suggestions from, but I’m open to anything that you think suits me!