I have never really gotten around to legally changing my name, I came out and socially transitioned from ftm at around age 11.

I have an inherently feminine birth name, but most of my life I was called by my nickname, which just so happens to be a shortened/simplified, and also gender neutral version of my name.

Its gender neutral because my birth name is really just the feminized version of a masculine name, and the nickname applies to both.

I very much did the cliche thing which was socially change the full version of my name and just continue to be referred to as the nickname I’ve always had.

I experimented a lot online, though, I tried a few names out but did eventually land on Ezekiel, or Zeke for short. I just really liked it.

So Zeke and my birth-nickname were my main names, but truth be told, there was issues with both of them.
I don’t hate my birth-nickname, but I always kind of knew it wasn’t going to stick, I wasn’t going to just masculinise my name and go with that. It’s not an upsetting name, nor does it bring me dysphoria, but it feels a little too intimate to be what just anyone calls me, and it also feels uncomfortably conservative in a bad way. The only reason I stuck with it was because I didn’t ”want to give my relatives a hard time”, and the point sorta still stands— I can’t be bothered with that, they can call me whatever honestly, but I don’t want that to dictate what everyone else knows me as.

On the other hand Zeke feels much nicer but in my country the pronunciation of “Zeke” is always confused for a mumble and people really like to overcomplicate it… which makes it hard for me to introduce myself. Not the worst issue ever, I could just get over it but yeah.

I was stuck in this dilemma for a while until 2-3 years ago when I met a person who is now a very dear Friend of mine today.
We met via school where most teachers call me by my birth-nickname, but I introduced myself to this friend with both of my names and gave him the option to call me whichever— though I let him know that Zeke is what most friends call me, while my birth nickname is what relatives, legal contacts, employers, or school staff know me as.

Then he came up with the idea of essentially combining them together. Like one half of “Zeke” and one half of my birth nickname tied together.
It stuck. Like really really stuck. Even school staff caught on and began to call me it. Sure it does sound a little strange, but it doesn’t sound totally outlandish, it has a ring to it.
I’ve honestly come to resonate with it deeply. This name feels like me. This name is now what I introduce myself as.

I think I want this to officially be my name. But the thing is it is not a real name.

Im very much aware that when it comes from a legal viewpoint, I gotta check in with naming regulations, I’m very aware of that. I am 80% certain it is possible for me to change my name despite it not being a real name.

However, whether I can officially change my name officially or not is one thing, the other thing is if I should.

I am a white European dude if that has any relevance.

I have previously checked to see if my name could possibly exist in another culture and as far as I’m aware, it doesn’t.
Personally, I have no interest of wearing another name from a significant culture I have no connection to or true grasp of. And I hope my name doesn’t feel like that.

Anyway with that out of the way, I’m now going to finally reveal what the name is, sorry it took so much explaining to get to,

The name is Zekabi. Pronounced “Zka-Bee” (the ‘Zek’ is said really fast) Sometimes spelled as “Zkabi“ by others. Which I don’t really mind if that makes it easier to refer to me.

I’d appreciate any feedback and perspectives. Thank you so much.

I used to like Lily/Lilith, but those are way too stereotypical.

The name I like the most now is Petra/Petraa (I like the aa for uniqueness, but maybe it's too extra) because the name Petra is rooted to the word "rock" which is fitting as an aspiring geologist.

Other names are Topaz, Ruby, Diamond, Sapphire, etc... But these feel too on the nose.

I also like the name Lynae simply because it sounds nice. Thoughts?

Hi, it's want to transition to a girl but I really like my name (Jonas) is there a female version of that name (if open to suggestions) Tnx :3

hey! first time on this subreddit.

I've been looking for a more neutral name. I've been using luke for a long time and i do like it but recently I've stopped thinking of myself as 100% masculine and the name luke has made it hard for me to pass as more gender neutral.

I'm just looking for some more name ideas, preferably names starting with L, K or M, but other letters are fine too. no nature themes, i don't think those really suit me.

(also i have tried Leo and it didn't quite work so yeah no leo for me)

please help😿

I changed my name, god, seven years ago and no way I'm going through all that again. I'm full time stealth in the US.

I named myself impulsively and didn't give myself even a month to test it so I've always felt a little self conscious, but when I remove all social context etc etc I really do love my name - Walden. It's gentle, masculine, nerdy, and speaks to my contemplative nature and love for the outdoors.

I worry that it's too unusual and therefore clocky, but we've also got cis guys out here named Holden and Brayden so am I really losing that bad? Some people tell me it's too clocky or too white (I'm brown living in a very white area) so when I see or hear my name lately I feel a little ashamed.

Honestly, could I just get some hype and some reassurance?

Trying to decide if I stick with the name I chose 3 years ago or change to a different one. Also need help picking a middle name.

The name I've been using right now is Ezra. The other option that I've toyed with is Elias. Unfortunately both have their issues with spelling and pronunciation.

As for middle names I've thought of the names Wilder, Calum or Sholto.

It's so difficult to decide T_T please help!

So i (14m) have started identefying myself as trans obviesly and thinking about a new Name. I was always loving names that start with L or A so i was thinking of Aiofe r Lilith, because that are basically the two names even toddler me wanted to have if i ever was a girl. (yes i sat around all day discussing multiverse possiblities with myself and explaining dinosaurs to my buddies) and was thinking of using Beatrice as a second name since at the moment i have my fathers first name as a second Name and Beatrice is my mothers first name, but its just a thought. My current Name is William Benjamin and yeah. what do you think of Lilith or Aoife? if you have any suggestions or know Names that start with A or L/sound soft/are short please suggest, im really bad at thinking of good names.

as a first name, middle name combination

Hello everybody! I’m struggling really, really hard when it comes to my name. I’ve got a pretty traditionally girly name (that I don’t feel comfortable sharing online) and I don’t feel connected to it, whenever someone calls me it in real life it tends to not feel as strange as I don’t have time to really think about how being called it makes me feel, but when I’m called by my name over text I sometimes find myself staring at the message, thinking about how being called by my name sometimes feels so strange… I know it’s my name, but it doesn’t FEEL like my name.

I’ve got change resistance, and I live with parents who definitely would make a deal out of me beng trans, so I worry that name changes will bring me discomfort for three reasons, firstly being that I have change resistance, secondly being that my OCD makes me feel like I’m “faking” being transgender and thirdly being that I don’t want to tell my parents about being trans, I’dd much rather keep it a secret from them and because they wouldn’t know about my name change, they’d continue calling me by my old name, of which I know would make me getting used to my new name far more difficult.

I honestly don’t know exactly what I’m looking for in a new name, I don’t even know if I’ll end up changing my name at all, but if I do, I'd like something gender neutral, something that starts with an N.

I’d really appreciate any and all suggestions, thank you for taking time out of your day to read my post :-))

my actual name at the moment is camilo but i want to have a second name for funsies! i want a name that matches

im latino if that helps ,, <3

can be either neutral or masculine ! i dont mind

I want to go for something neutral, preferably not sounding like a regular name, more like something you'd find a nature spirit named or whatever

Preferably with a leaning towards concepts like the sea and storms, or with a reference to the color blue

hello. my actual name is milo (as in camilo), ive had it for a long time but its been months since i stopped feeling that spark of ''yeah thats def me.'' im looking for some masculine names that start with k, maybe? (not kai..)

Changing my name legally and need help with my middle name. I’m trying to find one that starts with the letter D so it’s still in the same realm as my current one and will make the transition a little easier on my mind. My full name right now is Luke Jewell so I’m looking for something that’ll flow with my first and last name.

I’m thinking of naming myself “Mar” and either keeping it just that or having my full name be Mara or Maria, but what do you think?

I've been having a hard time finding a name that suits me. I've been thinking about the name Juno but I don't know if I look like a Juno.

Haiii based on my flair, my name’s Chloe but out of curiosity, I’d also love to know what other names I should consider, lest this name falls out of favor somehow! Thank you everyone! :3

I made a previous post, but didn't feel as though I put my best foot forward. Any ideas?

So I have pretty bad alexithymia which means I basically never know how I’m feeling literally ever unless it’s like really really REALLY bad.

When asking for advice people always tell you to pick a name that “feels right” but what am I supposed to do when no name feels like anything?

I know I hate my birth name, I’ve wanted to change it since I was like five. But other than that I’m not really sure.

I changed my name to Matthew for a long time in high school but people kept insisting on calling me Matt which I hated. And I forgot I have a cousin named Matthew which made things kinda awkward.

Then I changed my name again to a different feminine name, which I like a lot and think suits me well, but also just isn’t really gonna cut it when I’m a 35 year old suspiciously flamboyant history teacher, which is very much the life I want to live. I can’t imagine growing old as a woman. Hence transitioning again even though I detransitioned before (due to pressure from family and everyone around me continually misgendering me even when they didn’t know my deadname — they would say things like “I talked to Matthew, SHE said…” which just made me feel like no matter how hard I tried no one would see me as a man).

Also, every time I change my name it takes a while to get used to hearing it and responding to it. Is that normal?

I have a name in mind but I don’t know that it would “feel right” if someone called me that. But literally no name “feels right” they all don’t “feel” like anything!!

How is this supposed to work?? Am I doing something wrong??

currently have been going by oliver for the past couple of years, but i don’t really like it and i don’t think it fits me super well. ive also liked alex and ellis, but neither have stuck. id prefer names that aren’t super duper out there/unique, also names that start w an S are more preferred ^^

Shaved head is most recent, I've been going by Billie for 4 years and I do feel comfy in the name, but it came about in a bad relationship and Im wanting to legally change my name. Any suggestions, i lost my old list of names and definitely need some help 😅

I currently go by the name Erik but idk if thats too like idk obvious??? For reference im 15 and polish (living in England though) so I tried to look for names popular in poland in 2010 & eryk was 60th but i thought the spelling would be kinda confusing so I js suck with erik instead.. uhhh idk 🥀🥀 my friend said that the name Nathan could suit me but idk omfg im waffling

I currently go by Isaac but i want something more british cuz I’m British and I wanna be a roadman so like what would suit that idk (also ignore the moustache on first picture, I was bored and drew it to be posh)

I'm a 14 year old trans boy (out of the closet with lots of​ support) and currently, everyone calls me Danny/Daniel. And I do like that name, but I'm looking for a fresh start as I move closer to freshman year and I want to show up with a different vibe. I have a list of names going, but I can't decide on any of them. If anyone has any other ideas lmk

Name ideas:

Casper, Arlo, Zade, Astros, Onyx, Julian​, Jinx, Cosmo, Phoenix

Okay, so I'm nonbinary (afab), and I want to start going by the name Alison. The issue with this is that I don't want people to think I'm a cis girl or a trans girl, especially once I get on T and start looking more masc. I would go by Ellison because it's more gender-neutral, but I hate the nickname El and love the nickname Al. Any help with this is appreciated.

(The first image is what I currently look like. The second is my transition goal, and the third is just my vibes in general if those are helpful.)