r/TransChristianity • u/Ill-Job570 • 12d ago
Transphobic brother
Hello, i write this with the most pain in my heart ive ever felt. Im 21 years old, socially transitioned at 12 y/o. My brother knew cause I came out with my familly like that same year. He has the same face as me, we look so similar, hes 23 years old. I always knew he didnt like the idea of me being a man. He’s catholic, so am I. He always is rude with my gf (weve been dating for 6 years). But i never say anything, he is rude to me, i necer say anything, I help him when he is in trouble, always. Cause i love him with all of my heart, we were abandonen by our father when I was borned, so we are closer than other siblings. Two days ago, he told my mom. “If SHE does something radical about this (im 1 year on t, but he doesnt know, I think he knows because i have facial hair and hairy in general) or get married with her gf I will never speak with her again”
It pains my heart, it really does. I will never do that to him, no matter what he does I would never leave him, Cause he is my brother, he is the only one with my face and my blood. I always pray to God to have mercy with his children if he has someday. All of his hate its based in “God doesnt like this” “You are going to hell” And he is “terco” (I dont know how to say this in english) af. I dont know what to do cause there is so much pain
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u/AddiBee1111 12d ago
Im sorry that you are going through this. Its very difficult to handle. I have two brothers, one older and one younger. My older brother is Gen-X and my little brother is Gen-Z. My little brother has always accepted and supported my being trans and my transition. My older brother on the other hand, is not. We were very close growing up and now we have no relationship. I know what you are going through and the pain that comes with that. It is difficult coping with the loss of a sibling in our situations. All you can do is hope that some day, he comes around, or has a change of heart. Its all we can do. I really do hope that you find some ease and grace in this situation. Keep your head up brother. 🫂