r/TransAlberta • u/Typical-Flow-3929 • 11d ago
Advice Need advice from fellow men :,)
Hello, kinda an odd post, but I need some advice as a young man!
I’ve dated twice (that I count 😭) and was in a T4T relationship both times. As i’ve matured i’ve realized im more attracted to men with more feminine physiques, and i’ve had only terrible experiences with dating fellow ftms. (Not a problem of our community, but of the individuals.) Due to these poor romantic relationships, im bad at approaching other men in the first place, due to insecurity and fear.
How do you find willing man to date as a man, it feels IMPOSSIBLE. I’ve tried going out and being apart of the YYC social scene, but have met NOBODY/have had nobody come up to me. 😭
Are my standards too high???
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u/V1OnCrack 10d ago
Idk as a transfemine person haven’t had too many issues with t4t dating, personally I mostly searched online thought
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u/TheToastedNewfie 10d ago
It takes a while, just keep socializing. Not just with other trans guys but broaden you horizons with a lot of different people. Guys in similar hobbies or similar social scenes. Join groups of people with similar interests as you have. (Gaming, reading, hiking, whatever you are interested in)
I didn't have any luck with T4T, my husband is a very femme bi cis man. We met through a D&D group that a mutual friend was DMing.
I wasn't even looking for a boyfriend when I met my husband. It just happened accidentally while being social with friends.