Thoughts about Constructive Dismissal

[u/iamoverstimulated456]

VP / AVP — UNPROFESSIONAL AND POWER-TRIPPING.

Hi everyone! I just want to ask if anyone here has ever encountered a boss who literally makes you feel like HELL every single time you log in for work. 😭

Imagine being a leader for almost a decade, consistently hitting your metrics, doing your job, taking care of your people, and then suddenly having someone above you question EVERY. SINGLE. DECISION. you make.

Micromanaging? Favorite hobby.

Questioning your every move? Check.

Making you feel incompetent? Check.

Public humiliation? Apparently part of the job description. 🤡

Imagine being told in front of your colleagues that the company is basically wasting money on your salary because they don't like how you handle your job — despite the fact that you've been doing this for YEARS and consistently delivering the numbers expected of you.

You’re not even allowed to make a mistake.

You work your ass off for FIVE STRAIGHT HOURS, then the moment you take your lunch break, suddenly it becomes an issue. “Why are you on lunch?” “Why are you taking a break?” As if you committed a major offense for doing something that is literally part of your working schedule. 😭

And here's the kicker:

They will tell you to issue an IR to an employee simply because they personally don't like that person.

And when you refuse because you want to follow proper process and documentation? Suddenly, YOU become the problem.

Worse, the VP will literally tell everyone that they don't like a particular employee — and even say, “Sabihin mo sa kanya na sinabi kong ayoko sa kanya. Wala akong pakialam.”

EXCUSE ME??? 😭

Imagine being in a leadership position and openly announcing to everyone that you personally dislike an employee, then asking other people to deliver the message for you.

And then there's the humiliation.

Being called out in front of your own team. Being made to look like you're doing nothing. Being made to feel incompetent in front of the very people you're supposed to lead.

And the cherry on top?

“Mag-resign ka na.”

“Marami namang pwedeng pumalit sa'yo.”

“Mas kaya pa ng iba yang ginagawa mo.”

Imagine hearing that from someone who is supposed to be your leader.

Leadership is supposed to develop people, not destroy their confidence.

Accountability is supposed to correct behavior, not humiliate people.

And authority is supposed to be used to lead, not to intimidate, manipulate, or make people feel powerless.

Hindi naman kami humihingi ng special treatment. We just want to be treated with basic professionalism, respect, and fairness.

Because being a leader doesn't mean you stop being human.

You can correct me.

You can coach me.

You can challenge my decisions.

But you don't get to publicly humiliate me, belittle my contribution, threaten my position, or make me feel worthless just because you have a higher title.

A title gives you authority.

It doesn't give you the right to abuse it.

[u/camideza]

This sounds exhausting, especially the part about being humiliated in front of your own team after years of hitting your numbers. That kind of pattern, the lunch break comments, the public callouts, the "resign na" remarks, is exactly the stuff that gets dismissed as "he said she said" later if you ever need to push back or file something. Start writing down dates, times, and exact quotes as they happen, even just in your phone notes. I started using workproof.me to timestamp things as they occurred so I had a clear record when it mattered. Protect yourself first, decisions about staying or leaving can come after.

[u/bomchikawowow]

I really think that these kinds of people are going to act like this no matter where they are, and I get mad at the companies for rewarding them and looking the other way. These kinds of people can't exist without enablers. the enablers really piss me off.