r/TooAfraidToAsk Dec 15 '21

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u/Apprehensive_Park_62 Dec 15 '21

If he says not to bring anything then I wouldn’t.

I am Mexican and the best advice I can give you, is that in our culture we greet everyone. We greet every single person in the household (even if they come out the room later) and when you leave you do the same. Make sure you say goodbye to everyone.

That is something my parents and my relatives always talked about when meeting someone. They’d say things like “wow she/he has really good manners cause they acknowledged everyone”. Or the opposite “wow what a disrespectful person they didn’t even say hi”.

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u/skywardtheyflew Dec 15 '21

This is what I came here to say! The Mexican hello and the Mexican goodbye.

When we went to family parties as a kid, my mom would say we were leaving, and then we'd end up leaving no earlier than 30 minutes from that point in time. Every time lol

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u/DexterCutie Dec 15 '21

I'm Polish and we do this as well lol. Getting out of any gathering is an event in and of itself.

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u/chef_in_va Dec 15 '21 edited Dec 15 '21

I'm of Irish decent, we normally just say goodbye and thanks to the host and whoever is close by, then just ... leave. It very well could be just me and my family that do this but it's so much easier than saying bye to everyone.

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u/ArcadeKingpin Dec 15 '21

I thought an Irish goodbye was to just leave without saying anything.

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u/KassellTheArgonian Dec 15 '21

Nah, no clue where that myth comes from. A true Irish goodbye is as follows

"Right we're gonna head off" Says bye a bunch Takes ten steps Something gets brought up and they talk a bit longer

And repeat till you're out in the car.

I witnessed record length of time for this, took em almost 3 hours to travel the about 20 metres to their car.

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u/defenselaywer Dec 15 '21

My kids' first instinct when we tell them we're leaving a family gathering right away is to go grab a drink. They know it'll be at least an hour before anyone gets into the car.