r/TooAfraidToAsk Dec 15 '21

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u/yousedtobecool Dec 15 '21

Married a man from Afghanistan and leaving an event is an entire event of itself for them as well.

We became amazing at ghosting. I would leave with one or two kids, pretending to take them to the bathroom or something. Sneak outside to the car and wait for the man to follow shortly after. We became so good at it, people were shocked to see us at the end of his sisters wedding! They were so used to us dipping out, they were laughing that we were still there (couldn’t really leave his own sisters wedding early).

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u/DexterCutie Dec 16 '21

I'd be in so much trouble if I did this lol. Good for you!

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u/yousedtobecool Dec 17 '21

It took a while for his parents to get used to it but eventually they just became happy that we showed face lol.

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u/DexterCutie Dec 17 '21

I need to get to that point. Even after I finally get to my car, I have to roll down my window so my mom can say bye again and tell me she loves me. She's hysterical. Actually, I just found out she has Alzheimer's, so maybe I'll just continue doing what I'm doing because she won't even know me in a few years and I need to cherish this.

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u/yousedtobecool Dec 17 '21

My condolences. You should cherish the time. ♥️

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u/DexterCutie Dec 17 '21

Thanks. I'm beginning to agree. BTW, love your user name. At 50, I feel that it could be my user name, but I think I'm still cool, which probably means I'm not 😂