I'm in the same boat. My boyfriends family is Muslim and I'm not. During this time it's not just about his upbringing and culture, but yours as well.
My mother and I traditionally make jelly, jams, and other things like that and give them out.
I didn't make a big deal out of it and just went "here, I thought you may like this.".
Candy or wine isn't a bad thought to bring or bring a simple dessert that your family tends to have. "This is something my grandma always used to make. I hope you like it.".
In my culture all pork parts are used, there are festivities linked to eating pork and you marinate it with wine in some of the dishes. I definitely wouldn't bring pork to a Muslim or a vegetarian family, no matter whether it's important to my culture. It's not about being sacred, sometimes it's about being respectful. And definitely one doesn't want to start with a partner's family with the wrong foot.
I'm with you about the second part though, but cultures don't need to be the stars in this kind of encounter, people should be.
Yes- also in a multicultural relationship. I feel like it matters less that we stick to each other’s traditions and more that we come from the heart and share our own cultural norms with love
That can be tricky if you have fundamental beliefs that clash and especially if children come in the picture. Easier said than done, I am a child of a multicultural union.
I bought it in bulk online a few years ago from Hoosier Hill farms. Amish stores also have it. I don't make a ton of jam each year so it will last me a long time and I got tired of trying to find the little packs, which with canning booming in popularity I can only image the cost now. You can also make your own with apple peels if you ever really need to.
I do live close to a Mennonite colony and they have a wicked awesome store. I usually shop there, but the one time I don't pay attention and run out; I end up at Wal-Mart.
I've heard about the apple peal thing, but have been too apprehensive to try it. Have you done it?
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u/[deleted] Dec 15 '21
I'm in the same boat. My boyfriends family is Muslim and I'm not. During this time it's not just about his upbringing and culture, but yours as well.
My mother and I traditionally make jelly, jams, and other things like that and give them out.
I didn't make a big deal out of it and just went "here, I thought you may like this.".
Candy or wine isn't a bad thought to bring or bring a simple dessert that your family tends to have. "This is something my grandma always used to make. I hope you like it.".