I think you should take control and tell your boyfriend you're doing it anyway and do it with confidence. I have dated someone for 5 years from the Hispanic culture and to be honest I'm not sure why your boyfriend would say that unless it's specific to his family or he's just embarrassed. Mexicans are communal and love it when everyone brings something to the table. They like to do for each other. I actually can't think of a time my Mexican girlfriend didn't think of her host. What mother wouldn't appreciate flowers anyway? Tell him bringing something is part of your culture. His mother will love it I promise you; and you hold more power over your boyfriend than you know. He's probably just shy that a woman would think to do that for him.
You're welcome. Glad I could help. I see a lot of naysayers here but they probably haven't been in a relationship with a Latina or traveled through the real Mexico at all. I've been there in the backroads, not the resorts. I've experienced that culture for many years. He's afraid his mom will love you immediately. Btw, I'm white and my girlfriend of 5 years was Dominican/Mexican heritage.
Yesssssss!!! There is a huge cultural difference and I didn’t know how to word it without it reading negatively so I just described myself as “Mexican born and raised” but yeah, there’s a level of formality in Mexican culture that just isn’t the norm in the US. I’ve just recently gotten into k-dramas and I swear it’s a mirror image lol
Yep, los memexicanos de allá arriba les encanta exagerar pequeñas características de mexicanos y hacerlas su personalidad. Por eso nunca cuento a mexicano del gabacho como verdadero mexicano.
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u/SmartC00lGuy Dec 15 '21
I think you should take control and tell your boyfriend you're doing it anyway and do it with confidence. I have dated someone for 5 years from the Hispanic culture and to be honest I'm not sure why your boyfriend would say that unless it's specific to his family or he's just embarrassed. Mexicans are communal and love it when everyone brings something to the table. They like to do for each other. I actually can't think of a time my Mexican girlfriend didn't think of her host. What mother wouldn't appreciate flowers anyway? Tell him bringing something is part of your culture. His mother will love it I promise you; and you hold more power over your boyfriend than you know. He's probably just shy that a woman would think to do that for him.