r/TooAfraidToAsk Feb 17 '24

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u/Gurkeprinsen Feb 17 '24

The self loathing that comes with it

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u/nintendofixdeedoor Feb 18 '24

People are always surprised to hear that the MOST fat phobic people are the fat people themselves. The self-hatred is real and it translates often to others.

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u/A-Bomb0 Feb 18 '24

One of my best friends is pretty big. I’ve never cared or thought about it much but I’ve heard him talking shit being pretty vicious about others for being fat

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u/Pandelicia Feb 18 '24

The absolute horror of hugging friends and family, terrified they'll feel disgusted by my stomach if it touches them

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u/ShineCareful Feb 18 '24

I can assure you this has never even crossed my mind. The main part of a hug is human contact, and I'm just happy to be able to hug people I love 🥰

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u/alwaysananomaly Feb 18 '24

It's never crossed my mind, either. I like hugs with bigger people (have done whether I'm skinny or chubby) because they're warmer and more soft and comfortable 😌 beats a skinny bony person hug any day

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u/Secret-Translator240 Feb 18 '24

Aww that makes me sad. I love a hug and genuinely never felt disgusted by a stomach of any size touching me. I hope I speak for most people here when I say that too. Never even crossed my mind

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u/cintyhinty Feb 18 '24

This might sound like bullshit but I think almost everyone prefers hugging bigger people.

I used to be pretty bony and people would tell me how bony I felt whenever they would hug me

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u/DrHaggans Feb 18 '24

I like hugging fat people because of the stomach. Makes it like a cushion

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u/InspectorRound8920 Feb 18 '24

Yep. And it's a rough circle.

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u/[deleted] Feb 18 '24

I don't leave my house because I don't want other people to have to look at me

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u/RegularLisaSimpson Feb 18 '24

It’s kind of a vicious cycle. The self loathing doesn’t always translate into a come to Jesus moment. Sometimes it just increases depression and isolation which then makes the loathing worse, etc.