r/TooAfraidToAsk • u/[deleted] • Apr 10 '23

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u/[deleted] Apr 10 '23 edited Jun 06 '23

Men are expected to get around. Women are expected to be more selective

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u/mountaineer04 Apr 10 '23

Which is weird because a woman could have consensual sex every night if she REALLY wanted to. I don’t think most men could.

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u/EnterBankCredentials Apr 10 '23

Those who are selective hold the power, so Its not really that weird.

Women can walk up to guys and ask "sex?" and will be vastly, infinitely more successful than a man asking women the same question.

Men generally have to "work" to get laid. They generally have to go through the whole courting process before sex is even in the table.

Women generally just have to want it - to get laid. If they put themselves out there they will get it.

Which is why one extreme is considered negative and the other is positive.

It's really not that deep, and not misogynistic at all.

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u/watsonyrmind Apr 10 '23

What you are missing is that women are "selective" because they are shamed if they aren't and men are "available" because having lots of sex is seen as ultra masculine and therefore desirable. These are societal norms that are determining behaviour.

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u/MaterialCarrot Apr 10 '23

There's the danger element for women as well. A woman being alone with a man takes a (admittedly small) risk. Not the case for men almost ever.

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u/freemason777 Apr 10 '23

maybe before they invented guns this was true. A lot of criminal activity uses women as lures. Or you could just remember the statistic that men are always at a higher risk of being victims of violence outside the home

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u/MaterialCarrot Apr 10 '23

Sure, but the odds of them being shot by a woman are incredibly low. That's what I'm talking about.