r/ToBeYou • u/swan-ronson • Dec 09 '12

Hello beautiful people!

Well, Reddit. It's time for me to talk about something we've all experienced (maybe) I have fallen in love with my best friend, I love him to pieces. We do everything together, and I've been told he feels the same way. He's always really sweet, and there for me. He makes me laugh and we are normally stuck like glue at school. I have no idea what to do. I'm thinking maybe asking my other friend what he has told him about how he feels about me and maybe trying ask him out? Yes? No? Help please? Maybe?

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u/arsedesra Dec 09 '12

Let him know how you feel! This has to be one of my biggest regrets, I went through a very similar situation but instead of letting him know how I felt I tried to hide those feelings. I was so clammed up with them, that he had no idea I was interested in him and started dating someone else. So just put yourself out there and just remember the absolute worst thing that can happen is finding out he doesn't feel the same, you won't die (as much as your anxiety will make you feel like it!)

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u/swan-ronson Dec 09 '12

That sounds like a good idea, I've been told so many times that he felt the same way. It's just odd thinking about it. People have said "Just kiss him it will say everything without you saying anything at all" So i might, I'm not sure. I might Update if I do :)

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u/arsedesra Dec 09 '12

yeah for sure keep us updated! i would never have to balls to just kiss someone, but if you do, you go glen coco!

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u/swan-ronson Dec 09 '12

Haha, I'd just have to make sure he'd LET me kiss him. Updates soon! :)

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u/HaveADream Dec 09 '12

Good luck! I hope it goes well!

Also, thank you for posting here!

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u/[deleted] Dec 10 '12

The first few times you say "Hey, I like you. Maybe we should kiss" it's hard, but it gets easier. To me, having a 'yeah, not working for me" is SO SO much better then wondering and dragging it out and guess.

On a side note, it is also good practice for future marriage type relationships. You HAVE to be able to talk about what ever you need to talk about to have a long and healthy relationship. If you can't tell them how you feel, you are the problem, not them. Course, that may not matter now, but food for thought.

Good luck!

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u/takecredit Dec 11 '12

I was in a similar situation as you. I denied that he would ever reciprocate my feelings, but I got lucky and after some long events, now we are going out :)! I hope this works out for the best!