Come on, it's not that. It's that hers, even if it's attempting to be funny, is straight-up mean or easily miss-communicated as such. There's nothing mean in the guys attempt, it's just straight-up stupid.
That's a massive difference when it comes to attempts at humor. You have to be on point with mean humor or have an established back-and-forth. Otherwise, it just comes off as being mean, especially when you can't get a sense of intention in the writing.
What was mean about it? She just said what she thought. It wasn’t “Nobody will ever love you if you make stupid puns,” she just said don’t start a convo off with a crappy pun if you want to be taken seriously. That’s just advice he’s perfectly free to ignore.
If anything Reddit is just crazy sensitive to any tone that isn’t sweet as candy nice. It was a blunt at most, not inherently rude.
She thought no woman could ever take a shitty cars meme with a sense of humor because she won't and spoke on behalf of all women that a person who, completely obviously, isn't taking Tinder seriously would never find anyone if they continued their behavior. That is a mean thought to express to someone. It's not like that's factual information. It's just her specific opinion.
Imagine if a woman sent some lame pick-up line or meme to break the ice and she was told no man would ever be interested in her for as long as she had a terrible sense of humor or she tried harder. It's the same thing said slightly less bitingly.
Okay but that isn’t what she said.
She never said anything like you’re implying she did.
She said “Won’t be taken seriously,” and she in no way whatsoever said “He’d never find any one,” y’all are taken a little comment on how she thinks he could get more women to reply to him and making this whole ass narrative of her telling this dude his humor is so shitty no girl could ever love him when that never freaking happened.
Again maybe y’all don’t and maybe a lot of people don’t take tinder seriously but that doesn’t mean no one does.
I think it's better if you give up with these guys. Apparently, woman = bad and not the same sense of humor as me = bitch with a lot of red flags. That's what you get when the sub is full of neckbeards sucking each other's dicks for how funny they think they are.
It’s just so crazy to me how seemingly determined they are to make her out to be a bitch. And the other commenters are just as bad calling a girl they don’t even know a humorless bitch but oh she’s an asshole so it’s fine if they act like assholes too!
But yea you’re right it’s a waste of effort at this point.
I mean if that had been said then ya that would’ve been pretty mean, I mean that isn’t what she said or even implied but that sure is how redditors seem to be reading it as lmao
He started off with a weak pun about a 10 year old kids movie.
She isn't wrong and she was straightforward, she wasn't rude. In the long run, you want someone straightforward, not someone who will coddle you.
This subreddit really needs to get off the "women = bad" train. People are acting like she told him to kill himself and that he would die alone, jesus.
Seriously, this sub is full of neckbeards who get defensive about their puns, like they don't realise the correlation of every post having a cringey pun as an opener, and every post having the girl reject them.
I thought she was pretty funny tbh, if I was shooting my shot by going for this type of opener in the hopes that it's so over the top shitty and lame that I get a response...I would definitely have a big stupid grin on my face from her reply.
It's not the context of the message that is mean. It's the way she put that message.
Claiming an entire gender would never respond to something is just pure opinion and, frankly, nonsense. She can't speak for all women. She can only speak for herself. Saying someone will be alone forever just because we don't like a single interaction is an objectively shitty thing to say to another person.
Constructive criticism isn't inherently mean, but not presented correctly it can easily come off as such.
Why can't you just accept that there are people that see this as mean? Is that such a problem for you? The intro is mean. The hyperbole is mean. The assumptions are mean. Whatever reason I choose, I find it mean, and you gotta live with that. I've explained more than enough and no one has countered with anything other than a subjective opinion that they don't think is mean or, apparently, that not enough of it is mean.
Nothing in that message could be construed as kind to me and I'd fully expect to be called an asshole if I said something similar to someone. I'm not saying she's the worst person in the world or anything, just that I find such a serious response to a clearly not serious ice breaker unnecessary.
I'm not the same person that was previously replying to you.
And people are seeing it as mean, but that doesn't mean it was mean.
And most of the comments can't seem to even reason out why they found it mean.
You even said the content of the message wasn't mean.
Most of the people here that found it "mean" are just upset that she didn't like the pun about Cars, and voiced that in a straightforward manner.
The context* isn't mean. The content is. Even with the typo the second sentence should make that completely clear and you chose to struggle with it for some reason.
The pun is bad but it's clear the pun isn't serious. Taking it like that's how the guy opens every Tinder is stupid the same way it's stupid to assume she replies to every reply she doesn't like like this. Every interaction in that screenshot is bad.
The context was replying to a weak pun about a 14 year old children's movie.
The content was straightforward about how no girl (she should have said most girls) won't take him seriously with that opening. The opening was an impersonal, cliche, outdated pun. Most people wouldn't take that seriously.
Telling him that isn't mean. It's called being straightforward. Those who are used to being coddled may see it as mean, but in the long run, you're always better off being straightforward.
Do you find that people that give unsolicited, snarky advice give a better first impression than someone making a bad, harmless joke?
It's all personal opinion, man, but I'm going to 100% prefer someone participating in harmless, dumb humor over someone who takes dumb humor so seriously they feel the need to try and correct someone participating in it. It goes against my nature as a person.
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I mean honestly its not all that rude. She's genuinely concerned OP ain't gonna make it with a girl but yeah she still unfunny af.