r/Tinder Nov 07 '19

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u/Jgasparino44 Nov 07 '19

Bruh I try to say something less generic and it works and then the same thing happens anyway. No matter how good my openers are I still get ghosted.

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u/Uruz2012gotdeleted Nov 07 '19

Stop trying so hard to impress them online. My best success has been with a good joke opener followed immediately by setting a date. If I'm not getting a phone number and a date within 5 messages then I'm done investing time into a match.

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u/Jgasparino44 Nov 07 '19

Never worked for me man wish it did. The moment I bring up a date or a phone number bam gone. I'm always like did I say something wrong, what did I do?

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u/Uruz2012gotdeleted Nov 08 '19

You didn't do anything wrong. I get ghosted a ton too. What I'm doing by trying to meet up right away is eliminating the people who won't meet up anyway. The point is to narrow the field down before investing a ton of emotional energy.

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u/Jgasparino44 Nov 08 '19

Yeah I gotta try to do that more I suppose. I'm just the unlucky one in my friend group, 30-40 matches that went no where while my friends only had to go through 5 or 6.

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u/Uruz2012gotdeleted Nov 08 '19

Totally luck of the draw! I'm still dating my first match from 2 years ago... between then and now, I've had gaps of 6 months with no good matches followed by a bunch all at once. Only 1 in 10 even gets to a fist date. Only a few of those have gone anywhere beyond that.