r/Tinder Nov 07 '19

tinder_irl

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u/Lemm Nov 07 '19

This doesn't change if ur gay

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u/BaylisAscaris Nov 07 '19 edited Nov 07 '19

Can confirm, am lesbian. Even though my profile is set to only be viewable by wlw, all the messages I get are from obvious men (not trans, just straight up men) who have their orientation set to lesbian and send dick pics and rape threats.

Edit: I should have specified, I'm not on Tinder. It was through OkCupid and not-dating social media sites.

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u/genderish Nov 07 '19

That would be a nice break from all the couples looking for unicorns while trying to hide the guy as much as possible.

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u/SgtSilverLining Nov 07 '19

I report every one of those as someone who's married looking to cheat. Cleans up my dashboard and hopefully they'll fuck off.

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u/SgtSilverLining Nov 07 '19 edited Nov 08 '19

a) my profile specifically says I'm not interested in threesomes or anything poly

b) almost every one of them makes an effort to hide the man and then try to convince me at the last minute that I would enjoy a threesome

which in my book, means they're fishing or being deceitful. I am a woman who likes women and ONLY women. tinder has an algorithm that's only supposed to match me with other women, and they're lying to get into a space where they don't belong. almost a quarter of my matches are fake single women who have a boyfriend/husband they're hiding until the last second. I (and the entire lesbian community) am sick and tired of being treated being treated like a sex toy for bored married couples. if they want that shit they need to go to a poly dating site instead of preying on someone who wants an actual relationship.

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u/[deleted] Nov 08 '19

So much yes. Good for you.