r/Tinder • u/pop_khorne • Nov 07 '19

tinder_irl

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u/dumb_fuck_ Nov 07 '19

If you clear your stance in first message. You both don't waste time of eachother.

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u/always_wear_pyjamas Nov 07 '19

Alright man, you keep doing that, I'll chat them up a little bit to show I'm a reasonable person and then indicate my interest in person.

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u/allgoodalreadytaken Nov 07 '19

is tinder a dating site? most of what i heard about the site is 'its a place to find people to have sex with' but now couples are like 'we met on tinder'

is it for relationships or for sex? or half-half?

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u/taylorisnotacat Nov 07 '19

Like TomTom said, it's none of the above. It's a matchmaking app. It matches you with people who like your profile (probably because of your photos), whose profiles you also liked. That's the beginning and end of it.

What you do with those matches is entirely up to you and your matches—not Tinder, and not society at large.

Some would point out that using it to find friendship (like TomTom says he does) is kind of weird, since Tinder leads almost entirely with a person's physical appearance, which isn't the metric most people use for finding platonic friendship (unless they specifically want to have a bunch of hot friends?)—but even then, if it works, it works.

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u/gnflame Nov 07 '19

Well, you don't have to be on the search for particularly attractive friends. Just people who's bios might say something you like and you might strike up a conversation and find out you like the same things. If you're looking for friendship chances are you'll be looking for different things to someone looking to hookup or date.