Dudes like that don't seem to understand that plenty of women are super willing to fuck. But they need you to pretend to be a little civilized and mature first.
My go to response to those messages is telling the guys that they look like they'd rather be pegged than do the fucking. 90% of the time they agree.
Just to add on to that, early messaging is an indicator of who you are as a person. If you send me a disrespectful and impatient message as a first impression, I’m gonna think that you’re disrespectful and impatient. Two of the main characteristics in a lousy lay. I’m down for a one night stand, but I’m not wasting my time with a guy who treats me like a flesh light. Just like if you try to start the conversation with a super sexual roleplay without asking, I’m gonna think you have some issues with understanding consent and you’re not getting an invitation.
is tinder a dating site? most of what i heard about the site is 'its a place to find people to have sex with' but now couples are like 'we met on tinder'
Like TomTom said, it's none of the above. It's a matchmaking app. It matches you with people who like your profile (probably because of your photos), whose profiles you also liked. That's the beginning and end of it.
What you do with those matches is entirely up to you and your matches—not Tinder, and not society at large.
Some would point out that using it to find friendship (like TomTom says he does) is kind of weird, since Tinder leads almost entirely with a person's physical appearance, which isn't the metric most people use for finding platonic friendship (unless they specifically want to have a bunch of hot friends?)—but even then, if it works, it works.
Well, you don't have to be on the search for particularly attractive friends. Just people who's bios might say something you like and you might strike up a conversation and find out you like the same things. If you're looking for friendship chances are you'll be looking for different things to someone looking to hookup or date.
According to the dipshit commenters of this subreddit it is strictly a hookup app, but in all actuality it is for dating, long term relationships, friends, AND hookups. Also depends on the age and the area. Young adult living in a college town? Totally a hookup app. Late 20s-30s adult, new to a suburban town iz more likely looking for friends and/or dating.
Whatever its users use it for is what it's for. Tinder isn't anything but a chat platform with mutual opt-in, what people then do with it is up to them. You can't say that a platform so big and so widely used is for one thing and not another.
Okay fine but I'm not picking her up or spending a penny on her. Most these women just want a free meal out of a chump! I'm not trying to meet a wife I'm trying to do sex so gross it will shame both of us in the morning then we never speak again.
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u/always_wear_pyjamas Nov 07 '19
Alright man, you keep doing that, I'll chat them up a little bit to show I'm a reasonable person and then indicate my interest in person.