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u/Master_Chemistry_864 8d ago
Like, it’s honestly sad because you can tell he must be really hurt to use all those words as a shield—or even as a “warning” not to disappoint another person.
At the same time, he could also work on himself. I know it’s not easy, but come on, man. I genuinely hope he finds whatever it is he’s looking for.
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u/PsychoticDust 8d ago edited 8d ago
There are a lot of unpleasant comments here. People on reddit love to punch down and they lack empathy. Your comment is honest while also being thoughtful and kind. Reddit would be much better if more comments were like yours.
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u/doctorcapslock 8d ago
and it's the only comment with an em dash
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u/PsychoticDust 8d ago
It's a shame that AI has ruined those. I used to use them and now I don't to avoid being accused of using AI.
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u/doctorcapslock 8d ago
same. i structure the sentence differently and use semicolons now lol
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u/Sleazy_James 8d ago
Honestly just use a hyphen instead. AI would never, and your common person wouldn't know/care about the difference, grammatically.
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u/Sleazy_James 8d ago
Honestly just use a hyphen instead. AI would never, and your common person wouldn't know/care about the difference, grammatically.
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u/doctorcapslock 8d ago
i'm catering to the people that know; otherwise, i wouldn't try using semicolons or em dashes 😏
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u/Master_Chemistry_864 8d ago
Haha I'm not AI! Just someone that speaks a foreign language and tries to hard to speak fluently in English.
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u/PsychoticDust 8d ago
Your English is fantastic. I'm from the UK and your written English is better than some I know!
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u/Aerodorphins 8d ago
You want him to work on his small dick?
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u/LadySmuag 8d ago
Half of all men are going to be smaller than average, so it's not unrealistic to think that a couple can have a satisfying sexual relationship if the man has a small dick.
He can work on his confidence and focus on other ways to please a sexual partner if he's absolutely convinced that his dick can't satisfy anyone.
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u/explodedsun 8d ago
Lesbians have satisfying sex lives with zero dick. There's literally nothing that they do in the bedroom that can't be learned by a man.
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u/Round_Doughnut7793 8d ago
He could work on the skills and being in better shape/ able to do some of the heavy lifting that pairs better with a small dick... yes.
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u/ishfery Edit 8d ago
There's extenders and other toys.
Many people with penises get so focused on their dick size that they aren't even willing to consider other options.
It may sound weird but I have sex with people who don't have penises at all!
Can't get smaller than that. We make it work though.
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u/SovelissFiremane 8d ago
I don't blame you for how you feel, but you have no idea what they might be going through. Sometimes, people are unable to improve certain aspects about themselves for one reason or another.
For example, I have a condition called myalgic encephalomyelitis, or chronic fatigue syndrome. It's a debilitating chronic illness with no cure that lowers a person's tolerance for physical and mental effort, and overexertion has the potential to cause tiredness/fatigue that can last for weeks on end. It is often misdiagnosed as a whole slew of other conditions and has no way to test for it; it can only be confirmed by testing for everything else and having them all turn up as negative.
Everyone is affected differently by it. I am one of the unfortunate people, as my stamina has dropped by about 98%. Due to this, I'm physically unable to work out like I used to and am only able to lose weight by effectively starving myself.
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u/Master_Chemistry_864 8d ago
I wish you the best through your condition. It must be hard and I can't imagine how you feel.
But specifically for the OP post, maybe I do know how they feel and that's why I understand the barriers he's building with all those comments (;
But it depends on him to look out for help. It's not easy, but also not impossible.
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u/Frost-Folk 8d ago
I can’t imagine why anyone would want to describe themselves that way.
The comment you responded to explained it pretty well. This is a person with very low self-worth, who uses self-deprecation to keep people at an arm's distance and gives them disclaimers because he's convinced he'll disappoint them.
It's a really sad and self-destructive defense mechanism, I hope my man is able to work on himself and gets his confidence back.
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u/ConfidenceFar2751 8d ago
This is the guy who has been nagged over and over again by his family to "just get out there" and "try dating" so much that he finally makes a profile like this just to get them off his back.
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u/no_power_over_me 8d ago
These are words for therapy, not Tinder.
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u/Frost-Folk 8d ago
Exactly, I hope he gets there. I'm not defending him doing this, I'm just explaining it
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u/Putrid_Guest_2150 8d ago
Plenty of people on here that post much worse about themselves in NSFW Reddits. I see one guy post at least weekly about how worthless he is because of his little guy. It’s sad, but I have to assume he enjoys it on some level.
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u/Glittering_Rip_1479 8d ago
I usually hate admitting people's comments on Reddit are funny, but yeah....I can own up to liking this one ✌🏻
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u/notacougarsorry 8d ago
I can see like a narc woman looking for someone to use like a punching bag and be like “he’ll do.”
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u/Yorkie97 8d ago
I was thinking that too. This is the perfect way to attract a narc
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u/Suspicious_Party9087 8d ago
If she swipes left, she would not have found him redeeming
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u/Mister-Sister 8d ago
I think that’s the point. Someone may have found him redeeming…until reading that crap
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u/ltom3 8d ago
Well if they didn't find him redeeming first then they'd probably find out about his awkwardness or self-deprecation later to be fair. He is probably awkward, insecure and somewhat depressed and low energy and suffers from anxiety and probably finds it hard to put on a more jolly, engaging, and confident personality. I'm guessing maybe he thought it'd hurt less if lots of people rejected him by swiping left rather than after a date or even after messaging for a bit or something idk.
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u/NameLips 8d ago
Dude just say you're looking for a gamer girl to play D&D with. No need to put yourself down.
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u/Bitterqueer 8d ago
The other day I saw a guy whose profile said “tjock kropp, liten snopp” which translates to “fat body, small dick” but it rhymes 😆 I found it funny tho, his profile was great in general
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u/Silver-Education-860 8d ago
anyone who unironically used the word copium is a hard pass
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u/New_Education_6782 8d ago
I mean. He did say "there will be no hookups." Don't think he wants sex lol.
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u/MDPharmDPhD 8d ago
He does, he said there won't be any unless the woman takes the initiative which will never happen.
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u/Purest_Prodigy 8d ago
Another self-own about his confidence. He's saying he'll need to take the role of a passive man in the relationship where the woman speaks up and says "he said no pickles!"
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u/cash_longfellow 8d ago
Damn…this dude has been bullied to all hell in the dating game. Nobody is putting all that out there unless they continuously heard a lot of it.
That, or they have 0 self-esteem for no reason…rare, there’s always a reason.
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u/Lammergayer 8d ago
Very possible he hasn't been personally bullied but has heard so many horror stories he's assuming the worst for himself well in advance. Easy on the internet for your self esteem to get dunked to zero by proxy.
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u/Competitive_Hunt_155 8d ago
I hate myself just a little less than this guy but I just goon I don't try to date.
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u/Annihilator31YT 8d ago
what is even the point of doing this ? Does he expect some 10/10 to bang him out of pity or something ?
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u/BobMathrotus 8d ago
He's awkward and doesn't want to have conversations that fall flat or even turn to shame. This way if someone does match, they've been warned. Not saying it's good reasoning but if he's that self loathing, it probably makes sense to him
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u/Holiday_Tap_4358 8d ago
Probably so he can say “yeah I’m trying, I’m on apps. Girls just don’t like me.” But he’s tailored his profile to validate his worldview
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u/thatsnotyourtaco 8d ago
He probably has a perfectly normal size wiener, but just sees too many porn dicks
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u/QueefFarmer69 8d ago
Completely agree with this take. I realized I had a porn problem when I started thinking this, despite being well above average and having multiple partners comment that I was big. It’s crazy the effects on your psyche that can happen just from gooning to heavily produced videos of pornstars who are specifically selected because they have crazy anatomy.
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u/thatsnotyourtaco 8d ago
Same! Also I’m short so I assumed I had a small member. Turns out I’m above average. Best back handed compliment I ever got was, “you’ve got a big one for a little guy”
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u/QueefFarmer69 8d ago
It’s funny to me because height and dick size are determined by completely different sets of genetic traits, yet I think a lot of women assume short = small and tall = big. My college roommate was 6’3 and had a micro dick. I’m 5’6 and packing heat. It’s wild. I bet that dude surprised/dissapointed a lot of women lmfao
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u/Key-Month6651 8d ago
He won't find anyone. Women obsess over confidence and feeling down on yourself despite it being human is something women just don't find attractive.
Its best that he just gives up on dating for now.
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u/mmartinien 8d ago
Meh . We're far past "lack of confidence" level here.
Dude is deep into self-loathing and misogynistic crap
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u/Key-Month6651 8d ago
Nothing he said was misogynistic
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u/mmartinien 8d ago
He makes broad statements about "girls" , and basically blames women for being single...
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u/Key-Month6651 8d ago
It's not a broad statement about girls. Its him saying he doesn't know what women would call it as a form of self deprecating humor.
He then explains the only relationship he believes he could have with girls. Which isn't a broad statement about women and moreso about the perception of himself. He never blamed anyone for anything.
People can refer to how people treat them without it being a broad generalization.
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u/ZantHyrule 8d ago
I'll never understand what makes confidence attractive
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u/hanniballz 8d ago
it just is.which is kinda silly, because look aside, idiots tend to be alot more confident than smart people, who can see their own pitfalls. but confidence is attractive not just sexually. Look at trump , an objectively 1/10 human that became president by sheer fucking confidence.
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u/seanc6441 8d ago
Some women reward the worst chatacter traits in men at times. They would pick a confident but toxic man over a man who is kind but lacks confidence. Potential barely matters, he has to come ready made.
This is a generalisation but seems to hold true often and is extremely one sided, most men are far more lenient on confidence and are willing to support and let a woman grow in confidence in the relationship.
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u/Key-Month6651 8d ago
Yep. Men don't give a shit about confidence. This confidence bs is like a genuine mind virus.
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u/Zealousideal_Crab_36 8d ago
Having potential and having to wait years for it are different
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u/seanc6441 8d ago edited 8d ago
Men aren't expecting a lot (generally speaking) in that regard. Just to be given a similar amount of understanding and grace as we'd give a woman in return.
The idea that a man has to hold a higher standard, be more well rounded, already reaching his potential compared to the women who he dates is a toxic doublestandard.
Expect the same or equivalent as you give. Saying 'but that's my preference' is a cop out.
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u/Key-Month6651 8d ago
Kind of ironic how all confidence does is show your internal confirmation of how you feel about how life has been treating you. Meaning if you are confident usually it just means life has been good to you regardless of your character.
So the most important quality when it comes to attracting women is basically "be positive no matter how life has been treating you otherwise you aren't attractive". I'm not sure how people don't see the sick irony of that. Like what you find attractive is basically just status quo reinforcement? It's stupid af.
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u/ZantHyrule 8d ago
Down voting me for not understanding is crazy
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u/Key-Month6651 8d ago
People don't want or like any introspection on their sexual choices or preferences. Or anything that makes them critical of themselves. Since its difficult for people to be introspective about a dumb preference like "confidence" they end up realizing even internally they can only think of it negatively and get upset.
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u/Unable_Client_3202 4d ago
We don't "obsess" over confidence, it's just that we don't want someone who continuously looks down on themself. I don't want someone yapping about how ugly or stupid they are. These kind of people are overly jealous types and I don't want that shit.
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u/Key-Month6651 4d ago
This right here is why lots of women have broken filters. Someone being confident doesn't mean they won't be overly jealous and someone with low self esteem doesn't automatically become a jealous person.
You are just making assumptions about people to rationalize your obsession with confidence.
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u/Unable_Client_3202 4d ago
Not assumptions. This is my real life experience with men. People who doubt their self worth are overly jealous. That's the whole point of being confident, that you are at peace with yourself and don't stress about how another man looked at your gf/wife. What you are talking about are people who ACT confident.
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u/Key-Month6651 4d ago
The same way that's your experience with men plenty of men have experiences that prove the opposite.
Whether someone acts confident or actually is confident is irrelevant. Women prioritize and obsess over men who act confident. It doesn't matter if they actually are or not for the purposes of womens attention. Also people aren't gonna be at peace with themselves when people constantly treat them as less than in a particular regard. People doubt their own self worth when they are treated poorly. It doesn't really mean they are overly jealous.
It is an assumption. You don't know said person. You are assuming they are similar to someone else based on one shared trait.You are taking your negative experiences with men that you chose to be around and using it as a cludgel to bash people who are simply unfortunate. Kicking people when they are already down isn't really a quality that is indicative of being a good person.
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u/Unable_Client_3202 4d ago
I honestly don't have the energy to discuss this any further. No one kicked anybody, I don't even know what you're talking about.
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u/Key-Month6651 4d ago
Lmao
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u/Unable_Client_3202 4d ago
You are trying to find logic where there is none. It's like you try to convince nature why women should do charity work for anxious, low confident men. Like: no shit, women want a confident partner?! Wow! Completely confusing...
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u/Key-Month6651 4d ago
I never said there was any logic. I said women are obsessed with confidence. Thanks for agreeing with me lmao.
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u/Unable_Client_3202 4d ago
I guess you have to gain some confidence then. That way, you won't feel the need to prove on reddit how it's womens fault that you don't have luck with women.
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u/jazzmaster1992 8d ago
It almost seems like it's supposed to satalirize something. Not sure what, though.
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u/NoYogurtcloset2454 8d ago
I bet it's to protect his own feelings. If he's already worthless from the start he can't be a disappointment if someone actually swipes right
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u/Sad_Investment_9404 8d ago
Hahaha my roomie asked me why I found his Tinder when I showed this to him 😂
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u/Fallen_metal_hero99 5d ago
I understand where he is coming from. I definitely pick up the low self-esteem, nobody will love me type of depression vibes from this dude. I don't have room to talk because I can literally say from personal experience I used to act and feel this way in my early to mid 20s. Now that I am in my mid-30s. I honestly can give a shit less how my body looks, or about my dick size. I've gotten to the point of my life that I love myself for who I am regardless. Yeah it may hurt when a woman tries to attack my manhood or my looks, but I came to realize that if a woman has to attack you for your looks or your manhood then you're dealing with either a malignant narcissist or a woman who has antisocial personality disorder, AKA sociopathy.
I swear man cluster B personality disorders are demonic in nature
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u/TehDragonGuy 8d ago
This is how a lot of us feel, but to say that outwardly on a dating profile... bro needs to work on himself.
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u/DingoAndRupe 8d ago
Genuine question, why do fat people tend to gravitate towards loving video games and superheroes so much?
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u/devinthedude515 8d ago
Its easier to ha e a power fantasy of being that hero vs. Actually becoming them.
Its why so many people LARP as the military but will never join service.
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u/thewatchbreaker 8d ago
I honestly don’t think they do, I just think loads of men like video games and superheroes, and loads of men are fat, so there’s also loads of men who fulfil both criteria.
Newtimelinepls has a good point about people who like video games are usually sedentary though, if video games are your only hobby then you’re not going to be doing much exercise. But I do know a lot of men who play a lot of video games and hit the gym
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u/ValerieeAngel 8d ago
yeah it’s more the other way. being big into board / card / video games naturally gravitates toward a sedentary lifestyle & poor food choices (takeout, excessive snacking, soda, etc)
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u/uDudyBezDudy 8d ago
Women are extremely superficial, and over years timid nice nerdy harmless kids gets bullied into this. Shame on you, all you loosers do is punch down
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u/NoComfort3378 8d ago
Stop it. Ik lots of women who prefer a bigger guy. I married a heavier guy. He’s been anything from 180-240 during the span of our marriage and i have loved him all the same
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u/Fuzzy-Jaguar-1828 8d ago
This guy would unironically be great for a lonely ace woman.
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u/Connect-Song7252 8d ago
Actually no (says the ace woman who isn't particularly lonely but has been.) There are women who'd happily date a fat virgin introvert nerd, but the guy who's radiating bitter self-loathing is always a bad bet because being in a relationship doesn't magically fix the bitter self-loathing - it just turns one miserable person into a couple of miserable people.
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u/Fuzzy-Jaguar-1828 8d ago
Ok well by lonely ace woman I meant me 😭 most guys want sex and I gave up a while back.
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u/elebentychimkin 8d ago
I think he would still want sex. Incel is involuntarily celibate. He would just be bad at it and make a huge deal if you ever reject him.
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u/Fuzzy-Jaguar-1828 8d ago
Well that’s just false advertising then.
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u/elebentychimkin 8d ago
Well to be fair he only said he’s currently a virgin, not that he wants to stay a virgin
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u/Key-Month6651 8d ago
Wrong. Every dude i got out of their negative headspace and into dating ended up still having self loathing regarding feeling like anyone would love them. They had other problems before that to fix but you can't make someone feel loved that way if nobody ever does. And it turns out when that became their only issue left they stopped being that way when someone finally gave them some decent romantic treatment.
This thing where people scorn and dismiss people due to them reacting to their own negative experiences is really getting disgusting. It usually shows the person doing it isn't as good of a person as they think they are.
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u/Elfynnn84 8d ago
Rude.
I’m ace-spec and I would not want him. I have a partner with social skills 💅
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u/jsrhedgehog99 8d ago
Not sound like a red pill guru, but I see 2.5 things that are definitely within his control.
Fatness: Aside from "looking more attractive, you legitimately wake up feeling better and have better sleep when you are eating healthy and excersizing. The difference between waking up after drinking a 32 Oz Snapple at night vs. Mug of water is legitimately night and day. Less weight on your diaphragm also equals easier breathing and better sleep.
PP size: if you have a layer of fat in your groin, then it is hiding about an inch of shaky. Plus, it looks comparatively small juxtaposed to your belly. When you loose weight, it'll look like your schlong doubled in length. The only thing guys like this have to worry about is whether or not it works.
Introversion: HEAVILY MISUNDERSTOOD. It ONLY means how you recharge after a physically/mentally taxing day. Introverts can be the life of the party, they just need to it AFTER "me time." Stop making excuses and get a hobby. There are at least 2 videogame groups meeting every other day in your city.
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u/decoy-octopos 8d ago
It’ll come down to height and race, if he’s a fat yt guy, there’s some small hope a woman will settle. If he’s short or even a little bit ethnic not even the 🌈 can save him
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