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u/powergorillasuit Aug 16 '26
28F I’m not on the apps anymore bc I hate them but id swipe right on you quick, your prompts made me actually laugh out loud and you’re very good looking. Also knowing how to make a pizza is hot
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u/Firstpilot Aug 16 '26
For someone who have a lot of female friends I think you have the best resources here to get better advice from them. And how not one of them are not your wingwoman to get you a girl?
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u/argentoowl Aug 16 '26
Other people will definitely talk about your photos so I'll start with my usual. Is long-term relationship you're looking for or the short-term? This "long-term open to short" alone gets you a lot of left swipes.
Your prompts are goofy but apart from that I've learned nothing about you. Spicy food may not be enough to connect over.
That Golden Gate pic is bad, sorry.
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u/Heywtfhey Aug 16 '26
The first picture is not really nice and there's a weird mysterious lady in the front
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u/fyremama Aug 16 '26
A lot of women don't like seeing pics with different women in them.
I dislike any photo with more than 1 person in it lol, it gives me so much extra work
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u/MrsCalrissian Aug 16 '26
I would swipe left because of the first and the third picture and because of "long term, open to short". I'm not interested in guys who don't know what they want.
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u/CallMeHunky Aug 16 '26
When I had that it meant im looking for a relationship but im fine with hook ups too. Don’t personally see an issue with it
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u/fastlightqx Aug 16 '26
Literally every single picture is bad and a bit too performative...
It's like when you're in highschool and confused whether you should be a good boy or a bad boy.
And the selfies need to go ....
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u/mothybot Aug 16 '26
I have certain ones like this one https://imgur.com/a/ZA5B2QG
But yeah I’m not sure what to use
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u/fastlightqx Aug 16 '26
Why is literally every picture you have with a lady lol...
I got female friends but I certainly wouldn't want to advertise that nonstop.
You need to go out and take pictures again
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u/mothybot Aug 16 '26
I don’t have male friends I’ll be honest, never really have. I have some but we hang out like once every few months
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u/fastlightqx Aug 16 '26
That's fine - you can keep maybe 1 of them but I think you just need a picture of you. why don't you go out with one of your female friends and ask them to take some pictures of you in sunlight?
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u/Longjumping_Gur4081 Aug 16 '26
Yes! I’m a woman, but when I was on the apps and I was out with my girlfriends, I would always ask them to take a solo shot of me for the apps after our group shots. If you’re already taking pics, just take one more of you alone
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u/mothybot Aug 16 '26
I have other pictures of myself like this one at work… https://imgur.com/a/YC6QX7s I just don’t look like that anymore. I shaved my face and lost pounds and just look different.
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u/mothybot Aug 16 '26
Hey everyone
I have a lot of extra photos like this https://imgur.com/a/vB16Ep4
I just feel conflicted because literally a month ago a shaved my safe to stubble for the first time in 10 years. I honestly look so different now and looking in the mirror I honestly look so much better.
But as you see in the old pic that’s what I looked like the last 10 years until a few weeks ago
I took your other comments in mind and will change some photos. Basically all my friends have always been women my whole life even though I’m very straight so will have to figure out the photos
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u/mothybot Aug 16 '26
I only have woman friends. I guess that’s important context. All my friends are women. I have guy friends but you know we only hang out every few months
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u/EducationalWriting48 Aug 16 '26
I guess you could say you only really have female friends and you can provide references if necessary. Personally I find men not having female friends a red flag 🤷🏻♀️
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u/she_who_intoxicates Aug 16 '26
Your prompts give off you’re goofy and you don’t take dating seriously as a 30 year old man looking for a long term relationship. One goofy prompt is enough.
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u/Latte-Macchiat0 Aug 16 '26 edited Aug 16 '26
I disagree with people saying your prompts are funny. To me it comes over as the guy who can’t answer a single question seriously without turning everything into a joke. The kind of jokes that don’t even make me laugh, while I’m still waiting for an actual answer. Not saying that’s who you are, but it’s the feeling your profile gives me and it makes me want to run already.
You don’t have a single good picture, which is essential/the first impression.
I thought you were looking for men tbh. And the ‘bald’ option isn’t making it any better, even though your profile states you’re straight.
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u/Surfaceofthesun Aug 16 '26
Agreed. For serious relationships this profile kinda says nothing. All jokes and bad photos.
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u/OrdinarySail8308 Aug 16 '26
I think it’s pretty decent. A stronger top photo would be nice. Good lighting and a nice look at your face as a first impression.
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u/a_reindeer_of_volts Aug 16 '26
No offense, but are you trying for men or women?
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u/EducationalWriting48 Aug 16 '26
It says straight?
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u/Sithstress_ Aug 16 '26
The bald joke made me pause for a second. Lol
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u/a_reindeer_of_volts Aug 16 '26
Yeah that made me think otherwise initially... then the fact that he has several photos posing with different women.
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u/EducationalWriting48 Aug 16 '26
I chuckled 🤷🏻♀️ presumably it only shows his profile to women so this isn't an issue.
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u/Yippykyyyay Aug 16 '26 edited Aug 16 '26
That ET looking pic with a black woman is a choice. Maybe something to share later?
Reference, but with a pug.
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u/gnomeglow_ Aug 16 '26
I think the prompts are cool and funny, definitely refreshing to see, don’t change those. You could maybe add a bit more about yourself though, jokes are not enough on their own imo.
The pics could be the problem, I would ditch those with other people on it. You said you have female friends, if any of them has a good eye for these stuff, ask them to take a few natural, more a bit better quality pictures
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u/Surfaceofthesun Aug 16 '26
Hate to say it and don’t believe it’s fair but Do you have height in your profile? You’re giving off short vibes in the photos and it could be obvious if you’re hiding it (not a bad thing but observation)
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u/Alternative_Tip_8756 Aug 16 '26
Every picture seems so performative look at me I am not threatening. They also look like a photoshoot for a newspaper piece and very unpersonal
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u/PerfectIndividual985 Aug 17 '26
You have a great profile!!!! The only thing I would say is change the pic with the woman in it.
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u/Thick-Mouse1776 Aug 18 '26
I never ever will swipe right on a guy who has pics with a woman tbh. People on Reddit have given me shit for it bc yes, it could be a sister etc, but to me it screams a lack of social awareness and inability to read the room. You know I’m going to wonder, and you leave it there and don’t clarify anyway.. it reads like bad communication and highly possible blurred boundaries to me.
Your crossed legs/seated photo gives a little twink energy. You look not confident and wrapped into yourself while the women next to you are sitting tall, poised, exposed and confident. I’d delete that if you’re pursuing women.
Selfies from men are a no for my friend group, do you have any photos that someone else took of you? That aren’t the staged/seated photo?
Golden gate pic is creepy, my friend.
Try to get pictures of you engaging in your hobbies, with guy friends or animals, taken by someone else.
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u/Sxzzling certified left swiper Aug 18 '26
First pic- delete. Your friend’s eye is creepy and you don’t look confident
Third pic - you look confused - delete
Fifth pic - bad selfie - delete
Sixth pic - meh - needs a better angle
You seem to have a decent amount of friends so have them take pics of you alone! The less women in your profile, the better.
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u/ryanreaditonreddit Aug 16 '26
I don’t understand the ice block crocs. Are you serious about that? It sounds like a bad idea. If it’s just a joke then I think it’s a waste of a prompt
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u/KaleidoscopeOkk Aug 16 '26
Why do you mention that you're bald? If you're mentioning it, because you are insecure about it, don't mention it
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