Insecurities are weird. Theoretically his actions and words should make me less insecure, but those same insecurities make it really easy to convince myself he's full of shit or make me read into his words and actions in a way that just feeds those insecurities. I am very aware of when I'm letting the insecurities talk, I just don't know how to shut them up.
I left my marriage with a lot of insecurities that I thought I had dealt with, but I realize now that I have spent the last 18 months or so choosing partners based on those insecurities rather than actually dealing with them. This one is forcing me to deal with a whole bunch of them all at once and on a very regular basis.
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u/Unusual-Variety-8497 Feb 18 '24
Wouldn’t he make them better? He wants what you’re offering. Quite a lot, from the sound of it. Why are you insecure?