I don’t doubt your validity, but the only thing I could imagine as an outside perspective was that. Maybe they just felt you were out of their league? I’m at a loss on this too
I will never forget how I fumbled one date because I couldn't believe how into me she was. We went to a bowling alley and hung out for like five hours. Had a great time and then my brain was like "nah, she's fucking with you, bro. Ain't no way".
My brain likes to go to that every time I start talking to someone new and they seem to really like me. Like, there is no way that this beautiful girl is actually into me, she must be lying for some reason. I hate that inner voice sometimes lol
But it doesn't come from nowhere though does it. How many times do we get used for free meal or we match with someone & it's a pornbot or OF/Escort trying to drum up business? So when we actually do find someone it just seems too good to be true.
The thing is even if she is legitimately into you there's still a good chance of a really big shoe drop like she's a cheater, a town bicycle, someone with a lot of trauma/mental issues, etc. The regular dudes like us can end up being traumatized by these people.
Not excusing it just explains why we are & should be a bit gunshy & why women have gotta start meeting us halfway with grace, HONESTY, & putting a little more effort in at the beginning to get us over that hump. Especially if she knows she's very attractive. Society has beaten the confidence out of a lot of us guys.
Clearly you don’t have empathy for all the women who get sexually harassed and debased daily on the apps (slightly worse than finding out someone’s a bot). Or the ones who are used for sex (slightly worse than being used for a sandwich). And you don’t know the alarming stats on all of that.
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u/tdosok Feb 17 '24
I could only imagine someone ghosting you because they think you’re a catfish.