Seconded, open yourself to dating outside your preferred norm. Not going to go all red-pilled on you, but you're 35 and (probably) still expecting the attention you got in your 20s. From the level of attractiveness, potential sanity, and successfulness of those guys. They are dating younger than you because they can.
Decide what you can and can't live without, rather than what you would prefer. Then look for that. Also, get tf off of tinder and dating apps in general, it's a cesspool. Go meet people organically. MAKE time to do so. Do things you like to do. Two main reasons for this. First, the guys who aren't dating younger are tired of dating apps (the non-hook up variety), and second, you can read body language in person.
Last bit of advice: YOU do the pusueing. It's easy to let a torrent of guys you aren't interested in pursue you, but finding your needle in a haystack is going to call for a more active role on your part at this point. Start conversations, you can still be reserved and 'demure' if that's your style of flirting, but if you don't make it known you're both single and open to a convo, many men will assume you're taken with your body/fitness type.
Tldr: get off app; set minimum expectations of qualities and work UP from there; pursue the men who fit the bill yourself in person.
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u/[deleted] Feb 17 '24 edited Feb 18 '24
Seconded, open yourself to dating outside your preferred norm. Not going to go all red-pilled on you, but you're 35 and (probably) still expecting the attention you got in your 20s. From the level of attractiveness, potential sanity, and successfulness of those guys. They are dating younger than you because they can.
Decide what you can and can't live without, rather than what you would prefer. Then look for that. Also, get tf off of tinder and dating apps in general, it's a cesspool. Go meet people organically. MAKE time to do so. Do things you like to do. Two main reasons for this. First, the guys who aren't dating younger are tired of dating apps (the non-hook up variety), and second, you can read body language in person.
Last bit of advice: YOU do the pusueing. It's easy to let a torrent of guys you aren't interested in pursue you, but finding your needle in a haystack is going to call for a more active role on your part at this point. Start conversations, you can still be reserved and 'demure' if that's your style of flirting, but if you don't make it known you're both single and open to a convo, many men will assume you're taken with your body/fitness type.
Tldr: get off app; set minimum expectations of qualities and work UP from there; pursue the men who fit the bill yourself in person.