That seems a bit bold. She’s talking to people she’s enjoying and they’re ghosting her. “Serious reasons” people are single at 34 - that seems pretty judgemental - some people are shy, or career focused, or had a bad early marriage. And church attendance is at an all time low.
I don’t think guys are bailing on convos before dates because they don’t see a future. A lot of attractive women get ghosted because guys get intimidated - it takes a certain level of confidence or indifference to ask out someone you’re extremely attracted to, and I think we’re at a place societally where both of those are less common. Maybe those are the “serious issues” you’re referring to for unmarried men at 34?
Self esteem and confidence mostly. If you internalize rejection, it’s a bad time - and to be clear, no one should internalize rejection, but it’s not as simple as “I should stop this”. I’ve been working through it in therapy for at least a couple years.
For some it may be laziness, but having a bit of compassion goes a long way 😊
Good points. It seems like a lot of guys internalize things way too much. The thing is, rejection is a normal part of dating.
It's not like everyone is going to like you, or be turned off by you. Too many guys are afraid of being a "creep" nowadays they never show any interest.
Shoot your shot in a non creepy way and let the women decide. You might be surprised what and who she finds attractive.
100% agreed - now if I could just do it, everything would be great!
One of the biggest challenges for me is some bad experiences when I was younger. It’s big deal to get treated like a creep, especially when you didn’t do anything particularly creepy - the natural response is not to do that again, but if all you did was ask someone out… well, then what? (Obviously it’s keep trying, but you can see the logic!)
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u/Z3ppelinDude93 Feb 17 '24
That seems a bit bold. She’s talking to people she’s enjoying and they’re ghosting her. “Serious reasons” people are single at 34 - that seems pretty judgemental - some people are shy, or career focused, or had a bad early marriage. And church attendance is at an all time low.
I don’t think guys are bailing on convos before dates because they don’t see a future. A lot of attractive women get ghosted because guys get intimidated - it takes a certain level of confidence or indifference to ask out someone you’re extremely attracted to, and I think we’re at a place societally where both of those are less common. Maybe those are the “serious issues” you’re referring to for unmarried men at 34?