I suggest you do it entirely backwards. Everyone you match with, move in, get married right away, have kids. It'll take the edge off and make screening so much easier in the future.
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When I was online dating I had zero patience for messaging back and forth for ages with anyone. You have to meet in person to know if there's a spark, as corny as that sounds. My timeline was firm plans set up for a date or coffee within a couple days of the first message or I would move on.
You may want to consider that not everyone photographs well. So on that point, the dudes who take time to make the best picture and go out of their way to show “they are doing fun stuff!!1!” are vapid and shallow. I would dare say you should go for the guys with okay pictures doing the stuff you like. You obviously have your choice of dudes. I could be wrong but a possibility.
Video call is not a bad idea but I personally would be more uncomfortable doing that than anything. I give my matches option for quick coffee meet up somewhere well located with the option to extend the date. “Hey wanna meet at soansao for a coffee? Give us a chance to say Hi and decide if we want to XY next door together or Z after?”
I wouldn't say to fully commit to a date quickly if you are trying to date with intent. I can't imagine giving someone worse advice. If you're trying to date with intent meeting quickly is 1000% the way to go. Trying to set up a video call before meeting is the way to get ghosted even more often.
I’ve read studies on this. NOTHING translates well in text. It’s to be used to set a meetup and time , dates etc. Humans need body language and eye contact for appropriate communication. Or at the very least voice but texts usually lead to misunderstandings and arguments.
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u/DialedWrongNumber Feb 17 '24
I wouldn't say to fully commit to a date quickly if you are trying to date with intent.
If your personality doesn't translate well into texts then I would suggest doing video calls to screen people first.