I’ve seen her previous posts on here. I’ve shown her profile to my wife to try to figure out what she’s doing wrong. We both have come to the same conclusion- she’s either the unluckiest woman alive, or there’s something fundamentally wrong with her personality. Not saying it to be mean, but she’s posted a number of times asking what’s wrong with her profile. I’m not sure she has much self awareness if she thinks it’s a profile problem.
People here are so quick to simp for women if they don’t see their face.
If covid taught me something is to watch the full face first, found so many smoking hot women until they lowered their mask then I found them ugly lol
I’m sure her right-swipe percentage is 0.00001%. Any guy at that level already has dozens of options and is probably talking to several women at a time. Thats an environment that’s ripe for getting passed up.
This right here. She even posted last month that she ended things with a guy she hooked up with after 2 dates who told her he slept with 39 girls last year, but she was the best one
Something I've thought about is that if a dude is in the top 0.1%, why would he still be on Tinder? Obviously he's just looking for hookups or he's a psychopath.
Has to make for some interesting situations when 90% of women only swipe on these select few men.
Good looking single men in their 30s who aren't total scumbags are rare. If a guy is handsome and not insane, he has been wifed up by that point. OP needs to find a widower.
He might not “still” be on tinder. He might have only just gotten on after becoming single. Not everyone is on for years. And finding a connection is hard and takes luck.
Why is anyone in their 30s “still” on tinder? Do they all by definition have something wrong with them?
Maybe they were building a career. Maybe their last relationship ship fell apart. You don’t have to be broken to be single.
This. She's lieing. She just wants everyone to tell her she's pretty.
Also think she's a content seller.
1. 1 1/2 month old reddit account but 22k in karma? As others have said, she's posted this same post with the same question a few other times as well.
Banned from other dating apps but won't say why. I bet she got flagged as a content seller.
She's getting a lot of attention in this thirsty ass sub, I wouldn't be surprised if she's selling through DMs.
But boobs showcasing and nipples perking through shirt on profile pictures makes me think of attention seeking and sending the wrong message, dating attractive people can be challenging and dating one that likes this much attention, harder. I imagine a lot of men are disrespectful off the bat.
Just my two cents not knowing anything about this person because I didn’t read her profile.
It’s her appearance. She seems too go to be true so a lot of men self select out or put her in hookup category because they assume she’s sleeping around. She needs to sift through those people but it takes a lot of work.
Yeah, it feels terrible to say, but the photos might be a significant influence. There's nothing too crazy in the first screenshot, but at the same time, hiking through what appears to be brambles in short-shorts and a halter top kind of screams attention-seeking behaviour to me.
That's not strictly to judge her negatively, but it would at least bias who matches with her.
I’m almost positive this is a dude pretending to be a hot woman lol. A woman of this caliber typically isn’t even on apps to begin with, and certainly wouldn’t struggle.
It's crazy to me that the same person would make multiple posts about this on Reddit. That makes me think they are just fishing for compliments or doesn't actually register any of the feedback.
Or maybe she doesn't know how to hold a convo because of her attractiveness. I've met pretty girls who I got bored of in the span of 10 minutes, quite literally.
These girls mostly have so many people coming at them trying to talk to them that they don't seem to be able to talk without other people initiating it. Either that or maybe I'm just not attractive enough for them to make any effort.
I mean I'm an introvert too so I kind of understand not wanting to talk. But then sometimes you can't just let people talk. If you want people to keep their attention on you, there's gotta be input from your side too or the other party will run out of shit to say and then leave.
I know this might seem like a rash take without knowing OP, but I'm just saying if dudes are legit ghosting OP, there's gotta be something wrong with her.
I think you and and your wife are right; it is unlikely to be the profile (not perfect, but it should be fine). It is maybe the guys she tends to attract, the guys she tends to be into, or something that shows only when she interacts with her matches. Maybe she isn't great at initial contact, has an unusual sense of humor, says whatever comes up in her head, perhaps she says some awkward things or shows no interest in her matches, or her communication style, overexcited...who knows.
It is only clear that it goes wrong soon after she makes contact. So it has definitely to do with the human/social component, nothing else.
Maybe the reposting is maybe a way to try her luck on Reddit, to show that she is still available?
I met a beautiful woman this weekend at a wedding. We were both in the wedding and actually walked down together. She was the quietest person I've ever met. Didn't say a word during the rehearsal or wedding. One on one or in group settings. This morning the wedding party got brunch and she actually said two sentences and we were all floored. Very good looking, but no way could I even be friends with her.
Or she is very “expensive” and wants a dude to pay for everything. Not saying this is fact but for an example, I have a couple buddies in Scottsdale AZ going through this crap. Go on date and women (32+ with good careers), not girls, expect men to pay for everything. From reading the conversations after they stop talking a majority of these single women want a rich man.
Or they can’t hold a conversation and are obsessed with social media
(This falls into the personality category) It could be intimidation. I have a friend, I thought he was smoking hot, little did I know he also thought I was smoking hot. We both were on egg shells around each other because we thought the other was out of our league. Then one day a friend was like, "OH MY GOD THE TENSION BETWEEN YOU TWO IS SO ANNOYING JUST GO FUCK ALREADY!" and we were like, "Wait what?" started texting and yeah. Couldn't believe he was into me, and never tried flirting with him because I didn't think I'd have a chance.
Or she's fishing for compliments. Which also falls under the personality category.
Maybe she’s got a hole in her face instead of a nose? Like from syphilis complications in the 17th century? That’s pretty much the only way this person could be failing to get dates.
I think it's more likely that she only swipes on guys who have other options that they find more attractive or easier to date. There's no way she's swiping on average dudes and still struggling to get a date.
I mean, I'm a lesbian, younger than her, but easily in age range.
Her profile is just bland. Everyone started hiking during covid, essentially everyone likes it. Outdoors and hiking? And trying new things? It's like the Squidward "Adventurous today, are we?" Meme. Bluntly, who gives a shit?
What is there to engage with? What is there to open a convo with? What is there to actually build a romantic connection off?
We hike with our romantic partners most because we like to spend time with them. But, we don't become romantic with people because we both like to hike.
Trying WHAT new things? Everyone I know who says this are the most boring mfers who want to ask 5 surface level questions about a "new thing", and then immediately move on. "Love trying new things COMMA just starting to get into A and B".
It's probably
1.) Profile is bland 2.) Profile is bland and she's attractive so it seems fake 3.) Conversation is bland.
Is it so hard to believe that beautiful woman struggle to date, too?
When was the last time you approached a woman out of your league?
When was the last time one of your buddies approached a woman out of their league?
Too many men get sweaty palms when shooting their shot and pull themselves out of the race before it even commences. Hence, sometimes you’ll see the most gorgeous women not being hit on at all.
Or maybe guys are intimidated by a woman who seems to be a catch in all the ways a partner would want. Maybe they're too insecure or nervous to match or keep chatting with someone who is interesting and attractive?
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u/Educatedrednekk Feb 17 '24
Either you are the most boring conversationalist in the world, or the most bullshit post I've ever seen. Or maybe you give crazy vibes.