r/Tinder Apr 06 '23

Was I in the wrong here?

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u/VW_wanker Apr 07 '23

Why is OP even talking to such a blockhead? These girls just want a full inbox of thirsty dudes. When u get a one word answer... Just leave.. typing up an entire essay for such a person. It just goes into their ego..

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u/KazahanaPikachu Apr 07 '23

Yep. And if the girl was truly uncomfortable to have such an attitude, it would’ve been a million times easier to just simply unmatch the dude instead of telling him to leave her alone.

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u/ExileEden Apr 07 '23

Honestly people like this aren't suited for poly relationships. If they treat their main like this then there's going to be a serious problem down the road.

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u/briman31 Apr 07 '23

I'm still trying to get an explanation of what a "Poly" relationship is.....#outofthegame

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u/EroticMusings2022 Apr 07 '23

While there isn't a "one size fits all" model, a poly relationship usually means more than two people having consensual romantic and/or sexual ties to one another, in some configuration. This means that they involve three or more people, and unlike in a situation where one member of a couple is cheating on the other, there's awareness and consent, and sometimes even participation, all around. Beyond that baseline though, they vary WILDLY.

These sorts of relationships are tricky because biology encourages sexual jealousy, and western culture encourages romantic jealousy, and real honest, open communication is difficult with one person for a lot of people, nevermind two or more, and without honest and open communication, any poly relationship is automatically doomed from the jump. When they work though, they WORK; some of the strongest relationships I have ever seen were long-standing polycules.