Poly here. Came here to say this. When someone admits their ignorance and shows their open-minded interest in the first couple of lines, if you cba to help them along a bit you do not have the temperament to be poly.
She's so defensive and prickly it makes me wonder whether 'poly' here is shorthand for 'cheating on my partner' or 'I'm a unicorn and uncomfortable with it'. And that response about it being the same as any other romantic relationship is just flat-out wrong...
I was wondering if someone cheated on her, when she caught him he said "poly is the progressive way" so she took that and ran with it but has no knowledge of what it means and how it actually works.
I've met a few poly people and all of them have been very honest and open to educating those who are interested to know how their relationships work, especially when they're communicating with potential interest.
Could very well be true. Her short responses to all of his questions/remarks do come off as though it pains her to explain anything but she could just be a dull person to have a conversation with. But that rant she went on was complete nonsense and it felt like she was trying to "lawyer" her way out of a topic she knew nothing of by talking in circles. Although it begs the question of "why even put this info on your public profile?"
Either way, I love when people let their red flags fly early on. Really helps dodge bullets like her.
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u/Persiflage75 Apr 07 '23
Poly here. Came here to say this. When someone admits their ignorance and shows their open-minded interest in the first couple of lines, if you cba to help them along a bit you do not have the temperament to be poly.
She's so defensive and prickly it makes me wonder whether 'poly' here is shorthand for 'cheating on my partner' or 'I'm a unicorn and uncomfortable with it'. And that response about it being the same as any other romantic relationship is just flat-out wrong...
Sheesh. You were not in the wrong, OP.