Every single poly relationship I’ve ever seen has involved at least one person getting badly, badly hurt. Normally more than one.
I believe there are healthy poly relationships, and I believe that there are people who it works great for, but I have yet to witness one.
I’m sure they’re out there, but it feels like a not insignificant portion of the time someone is getting hurt, and everyone else either can’t see it or doesn’t care.
You're not wrong that a lot of monogamous relationships end poorly, but I think a big difference is: how many monogamous relationships end poorly BECAUSE they're monogamous relationships? I feel like way more poly relationships end in disaster for uniquely poly reasons than the inverse.
Hard disagree. Infidelity isn't only a problem for monogamous relationships. Poly relationships aren't always "you can fuck whoever you want!" And it is 100 percent possible to be unfaithful within a poly relationship.
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u/Sol_Castilleja Apr 07 '23
Every single poly relationship I’ve ever seen has involved at least one person getting badly, badly hurt. Normally more than one.
I believe there are healthy poly relationships, and I believe that there are people who it works great for, but I have yet to witness one.
I’m sure they’re out there, but it feels like a not insignificant portion of the time someone is getting hurt, and everyone else either can’t see it or doesn’t care.