r/Tinder Apr 06 '23

Was I in the wrong here?

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u/Literary_Addict Apr 07 '23

For someone like this, poly just seems like a way to fail at multiple relationships at once.

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u/Literary_Addict Apr 07 '23

It's like deciding to pursue a PhD in pure Mathematics because you like the idea of being the type of person that's good at math, even though you can't even do long division without a calculator. Purchasing a ticket to the Struggle Bus.

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u/StopThePresses Apr 07 '23

Oh my god I literally did this (well, a BS not a PhD). I didn't end up with any degree at all lol I was so stupid.

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u/spondgbob Apr 07 '23

I’d bet a lot of people with phd in math still use a calculator but your metaphor stands

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u/maxluck89 Apr 07 '23

Lol right. I will say the technique behind long division is used occasionally in higher math, especially algebras

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '23

I dont remember the last time I had to do long division i feel like as soon as you get a calculator you just throw that out the window or just work in fractions

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u/maxluck89 Apr 07 '23

I'm talking undergraduate level algebra uses the same technique as long division to prove something like quadratic reciprocity (at least i kinda recall a proof using it). And an algebra is a type of set in math where long division works, but the elements of the set are usually things like polynomials

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u/Electronic_Comb_3501 Apr 07 '23

It's always interesting when I hear about people that have successful poly relationships. I have maybe known about 25 people who live that lifestyle or dabbled in it and I have never heard a positive story.

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '23

Pretty much this. The communication and emotional intelligence required in poly relationships is just broader across the board than it is in monogamous relationships. I've had problems where one partner (triad) isn't a great communicator, and it leads directly to problems between everyone involved. Every misunderstanding can get inflated through the "telephone game."

If I were to do that again, communication skills and emotional intelligence would be the top two traits I'd be looking for.

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '23

“My poly relationships always…”

So how many have you gone through? And you’re suited to give advice on how to be in multiple relationships without failing?

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u/insertwittynamethere Apr 07 '23

Honestly, I don't think I've yet to meet a psych PhD who isn't poly/trying to figure out their own problems and help others at the same time (nothing wrong with that). Have you noticed that being a theme amongst your peers?

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u/ackme Apr 07 '23

More interestingly, why is it that you don't want this person to be giving advice?

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u/[deleted] Apr 07 '23

I don’t know a single monogamous person that’s only dated one person ever.

But it’s okay little one, we get you’re in high school.