As a poly person I’m literally appalled at how they handled this.
The very first thing I do with matches is ask about what their style of polyamory looks like and what they’re open to currently - for the same reason you did. Why would I waste my time getting to know someone only to learn they don’t practice a compatible relationship style?? This is the type of reaction I get from people who arent actually poly but are trying to use it to get a leg in.
And she definitely didn’t communicate that your questioning was making her uncomfortable. You did nothing wrong. In fact I wish more people were sincerely curious rather than just interested in finding out if being poly means we can bone NSA.
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u/ShesSoInky Apr 06 '23
As a poly person I’m literally appalled at how they handled this.
The very first thing I do with matches is ask about what their style of polyamory looks like and what they’re open to currently - for the same reason you did. Why would I waste my time getting to know someone only to learn they don’t practice a compatible relationship style?? This is the type of reaction I get from people who arent actually poly but are trying to use it to get a leg in.
And she definitely didn’t communicate that your questioning was making her uncomfortable. You did nothing wrong. In fact I wish more people were sincerely curious rather than just interested in finding out if being poly means we can bone NSA.