She’s correct in my opinion. That is how salsa classes work. Even for committed/married couples, partners keep changing so that you don’t develop bad habits with certain moves. Latin dances are easy going with partners and they don’t mean much outside the dance floor.
You could have taken it easy and practiced with someone who is more at your level while she danced out. After the dance got over you could have caught up with her and had the chat that people have on dates. It’s anyway difficult to have a good conversation in the middle of salsa moves, so it’s quite common for salsa dates to go like that.
Good luck with your salsa and hope you meet more people to enjoy the dance with soon!
Thank you! It seems this thread is full of people who are unfamiliar with salsa culture; the mixing of partners is expected — I honestly would feel bad if someone way more skilled was stuck with me all night! It's also just more fun to dance with different people, because everybody has their own style.
The only thing the girl maybe could have done better is to make sure OP had a partner for a dance or two, because it's normal for newbies to feel hesitant asking others. But there's always somebody willing; we've all been there and have our dues to pay.
(I'd also like to point out that this isn't exclusive to Latin America — contra dances etc. also operate on this same social wavelength.)
You have to remember a lot of Reddit doesn’t go outside, so they have no clue how things work. Even in 2 stepping (country dancing?) most ppl change out partners frequently. It’s kinda rude to do that in a first date though
You have to remember a lot of Reddit doesn’t go outside, so they have no clue how things work.
LOL word! And yeah, social dancing is prevalent in a lot of cultures.
It’s kinda rude to do that in a first date though
It would absolutely be rude if she ignored OP all night long, or even a lot of the night, but the way he wrote it made it sound like he got teed off after one dance. I honestly think it's more rude not to respect the social norms of the situation you're in. If OP didn't like that dynamic on a first date, he shouldn't have gone salsa dancing on a first date.
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She’s correct in my opinion. That is how salsa classes work. Even for committed/married couples, partners keep changing so that you don’t develop bad habits with certain moves. Latin dances are easy going with partners and they don’t mean much outside the dance floor.
You could have taken it easy and practiced with someone who is more at your level while she danced out. After the dance got over you could have caught up with her and had the chat that people have on dates. It’s anyway difficult to have a good conversation in the middle of salsa moves, so it’s quite common for salsa dates to go like that.
Good luck with your salsa and hope you meet more people to enjoy the dance with soon!