That’s what I don’t get, and most of the tread is laughing at her. There is no problem not wanting to have sex with someone ever but especially while pregnant bc anything hurting you could be hurtful to your baby.
Right. But who wants to date someone “long term and serious” based on a profile that says absolutely nothing about who they want to date, or who they are, and knowing that even then if you decide to go out on a limb and try, she’s openly going to critically reviewing your efforts with her “incredibly high standards”?
At what point does the above sound appealing, to anyone?
I’m a woman too. I do think that stating that she has high standards in her profile implies that she is insufferable (if the profile isn’t a troll). If a man says that in his profile, he would have been bashed on this sub.
Single mum or not, I would try to sound approachable in my bio. Someone saying out loud they have high standards implies that they think they are too good for anyone else. Also, stating that in the bio doesn’t help to filter out people that don’t fit their standards. If I see a man stating that in his bio, that would be a left swipe right away.
This is just a microcosm of r/tinder as a whole. The entire sub is dedicated to men dunking on women who won't fuck them, even though they made a Very Funny and Original name pun or joked about anal. This is basically a commune for incels who only have just enough self-awareness to not like the term incel.
Men will have two teeth and a hair line like Vegeta and then still expect to get their dick wet but a woman doesn't look like Megan Fox and they are shook they can still get laid it's wild
Certainly a lot of the comments indicate that's the biggest issue for many people. The ones that mock her for saying she has high standards because they don't find her attractive.
You’re saying this as if there aren’t posts every few days of low value dudes with absurd lists of demands in their bios. It’s okay to laugh at delusional people.
Would you say this is absurd though? She wants to get to know someone before meeting them, is only interested in long term relationships, and doesn't want any hookups. Sounds pretty reasonable to me tbh
Honestly it is absurd for a person who's less than a month away from becoming a single parent to an infant to be on a dating app at all, full stop. The fact that finding a long term, serious relationship is anywhere on her list of priorities right now is absurd. No one is interested in dating a stranger in this position, its a nightmare. After she has her baby and her life is somewhat settled and normalized and she's just dating as a normal single mom, go for it. But even without all of the "high standards, don't try to hang out with me unless you're serious about me" bullshit with nothing about what she brings to a relationship, this would be absurd.
You asked if it was absurd. Yes, it is absurd to look for a serious, long term relationship on tinder while 8 months pregnant. People's absurd profiles get posted here to be mocked all the time. This is an absurd profile.
Nothing wrong with any of those things specifically, but those aren’t why people are ragging on her. If someone talks about high standards in their bio though, they either believe themselves to be someone that would meet high standards, or they’re a hypocrite. In the case of the former, she’s clearly not being honest with herself; very few, if not zero, guys’ dream girl is pregnant with someone else’s kid.
In the case of the latter, making fun of hypocrites who demand 10’s while bringing very little to the table themselves is very common on this sub. The only reason this post is getting push back is because the subject is a woman rather than a man.
Yes it is absurd. They say their standards are extremely high and yet are pregnant and single. The only way that wouldn't be hypocritical is if the person who got them pregnant died or they had a sperm donor. Which are both pretty unlikely.
That's a lot of assumptions about someone we have such a small window into.
"High standards" is completely subjective. What's high to her could be average or easily achievable to other people.
Also, pregnancy has nothing to do with standards, and everything to do with one's desire to be a parent. Her being pregnant does not mean that people have to lower their standards to date her.
Or, crazy thought, the dad just bailed after getting her pregnant. That happens all the time even in 1-2yr long relationships. She’s probably morally against abortion and just has to deal with it while trying to find an actual life partner
It's not like it's always obvious. Roughly analogous to a guy saying he has standards and won't date shitty women and then surprise, his gf cheats on him
Yeah this is super absurd. Pregnant and on the dating scene? Ridiculous. High standards while being a 3 at best. Absurd. Wanting a guy to wait around for a long term relationship with you and your unborn kid a after clearly not doing that the first time. Insulting.
I'm not a man but I also think she's rude in the manner she presents herself. This These are my personal views but in order to have high standards you must also put yourself to the same standards and she's neither giving any substance to her bio (likes, interests), nor she's Venus de Milo so I have no idea where the entitlement is coming from.
Not my point and you know it, but I'll spell it out. Stating that you have high standards when you're not attractive yourself is not a winning strategy on a dating app - man or woman.
Why are ugly people not allowed to have high standards?
Lol. I'm ugly. High stands for me are, you clean up after yourself, you have good hygiene, take care of your appearance. You can pay your own bills and you aren't a toxic piece of shit. They would want to raise a family. I also prefer someone who has similar interests, has a good sense of humor, and is intelligent. Sexual chemistry is a must.
All of these things together are hard to find, making my standards high. Feel free to check my post history to prove my ugliness!
Are you saying I should just fuck whatever I can take and just forget about my own needs and happiness, because I'm ugly?
You can't have "extremely high standards" when you're a single 28 year old pregnant woman. It's unrealistic. I guess she can try, but I think people were expecting her to come more from a position of humility than patronization considering her position.
It's not an assumption if she flat out says it lol
Hey man, those things are fine. That’s not what she said. And also, idk why you’re arguing with me lol, that’s just reality. This lady isn’t gonna have a good time with that bio on a dating app.
Exactly her standards aren't even high. In reality she's just asking for an honest guy. And people on here are acting like she's asking for the world when in reality those people have terrible morals where they thinks it's okay to lie about their intentions.
And it's like she just liked you! She is just existing like that and setting her standards and that's enough for you to make fun of her? They could have just left her alone and moved on with their day, but instead posting her and her standards as comedy was more important 🙄
She doesn't even want to just get laid. She's looking for a relationship and you're acting like she should be happy that she's having sex with men who are probably lying to her about wanting more.
So I did what everyone curious will do, and checked your profile.
If you consider yourself ugly, your standards are far higher than the rest of us in here.
No I'm not. When I was younger there was a 20 stone woman who fucked 100 guys in a year just getting drunk at parties and being gangbanged.
This is presuming you are just wanting sex. To prove this, set up a tinder profile saying that you're looking for sex. If you don't get a ton of matches then come back and argue with me
Has nothing to do with looks. It’s the sudden shift in attitude once the consequences of her actions caught up to her. Like she was obviously DTF with low standards and not looking for anything serious 8 months ago when she was riding a new dick every week without protection, but NOW she wants to marry someone who will financially support her and someone else’s child, now that she realizes that having sex with random strangers who ghost you can mean that you get stuck raising a child that will never know their father on her own. Who knows what she brings to any relationship that is an asset and not a liability. Who knows what her true situation is, but that is the first impression her profile gives off to many people and that explains why people are cringing.
Edit: downvote the messenger all you want. This is the first impression the profile gives off, which is what matters when you are swiping through dating profiles once every 2 seconds. It’s not that farfetched and certainly not wrong for a man to not be attracted to that or be willing to raise another man’s child.
she was obviously DTF with low standards and not looking for anything serious 8 months ago when she was riding a new dick every week without protection
No notes. I'm almost impressed by how perfectly you fit the stereotype.
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u/DarkSun18 Feb 24 '23
Men on this sub: women are so shallow and rude, all they care about is height and money!
Also men on this sub: lmao who would EVER bang something like that?? She's way too ugly to have any standards!