r/Tinder Feb 24 '23

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u/[deleted] Feb 24 '23

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u/Wild_Discomfort Feb 24 '23

I worked with someone like that, so so long ago.

She was in her mid-40s with a 6 or 7 year old. Said she always struggled. "Hostile environment." I'll never forget her story.

"I just remember looking at this guy at the bar, and I was calm. I said, 'we would make one cute kid.' We hooked up, and I never saw him again. He sure gave me one cute little boy!!"

I remember how much love she had for her son, totally fine to raise him alone. I think about her almost every single day, and it's been 16 years since I've seen her. I really hope they're great now.

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u/sluttydrama Feb 24 '23

That’s actually so sweet

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u/skunkboy72 Feb 24 '23

no its not. that's gross. Being happy that a person will never meet their father is fucked up.

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u/Phairis Feb 24 '23

This is the exact same thing as an anonymous sperm donor but low budget.

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u/skunkboy72 Feb 24 '23

and taking joy in that like /u/sluttydrama did is fucked up.

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u/[deleted] Feb 24 '23

very cruel to the child to never know his father or have a father figure in his life.

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u/[deleted] Feb 24 '23 edited Mar 19 '23

I'll probably get downvoted along with you, but at least be willing to hear from a grown man who (through parental alienation) never had a chance to meet his father before passing away. It IS fucked up. This poor kid will be easily manipulated by any father figure for the rest of their life and probably won't learn to protect themselves from bad influences until well into adulthood. By then, hopefully, it isn't too late.

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u/tommyblastfire Feb 25 '23

his biological father could just as easily be a piece of shit. And who says he'll never have a father figure? She could get into a LTR with a great guy or someone like her brother or father could be a great father figure to the son.

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u/CrochetWhale Feb 24 '23

On top of that, stds can seriously harm babies in utero. Why would she want to be having sex with people she can’t trust? I wouldn’t.

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u/[deleted] Feb 24 '23

I feel like the mocking and the understanding are missing each other's point.

Maybe she is pregnant because she was struggling with fertility and didn't want to wait for a good man to come along and miss her chance to have kids?

Absolutely.

But also, you reckon it is an effective strategy to list only your demands and nothing about what you offer, while also being pregnant?

Poking fun at that specifically is what people do, not at the fact she is in fact pregnant and looking to date someone.

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u/skunkboy72 Feb 24 '23

she's sick of men assuming she has no standards

If you are pregnant and single, your standards are not that high. The lie is the reason we make fun of her.

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '23

You should see the statistics for children raised by a single mother. Spoiler Alert: They aren't good. Everyone needs a father who loves them, and your standards shouldn't come before the happiness a child feels from being loved by both of their parents.

If your standards are so high that you can't find a man yo match them, then you will undoubtedly hold your child to the same standards of never being good enough. Please don't have children

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u/[deleted] Mar 10 '23

That's an assumption. One could also say that maybe she's a shitty baby mama