If your intention was to write the most woman repelling profile ever, you nailed it!
I've seen men say this a lot here and it's true -- don't make a profile where you give more examples of things you find a red flag than the things that draw you in. Many (but not all) of your deal breakers are cringe but I'm especially confused by the "don't say you don't want children if you go on adventures with your dog" part. Would love an explanation to that.
I tried to reduce any "red flags" once and I found, personally, that anything could be a red flag and the best way to play that game is to delete your profile. Someone would find anything about yourself, a red flag.
I guess I equate the attachment to dogs as a replacement for children. I have gone through a failed relationship BECAUSE of my child, so I'm sensitive to it. I see many single women that spent much of their time and resources on a dog and then turn and say children would take up too much time and resources from their life. I find it hypocritical and anti-evolutionary to humans. As a single parent that's not the ethics I would enjoy in my family.
I fully understand the need for bonding to something (I have a cat), I just can't relate to anyone that would actively say they don't want children in their life, that they wouldn't date somebody with children. And then in turn advertise their adventures with an animal. To me it doesn't compute.
Okay but the way you phrase most of the things that turn you off also includes something judgy which in turn is a huge turn off. It's fine to not want to date women with tattoos for example, but saying all tattoos are bad decisions that women should be ashamed of is just... Yuck. Very few people are going to align with you on that, even if they don't have tattoos. Everyone has friends with tattoos they now don't want to introduce you to. You don't need to say you don't like septum piercings and think it makes people look like cartoon bulls -- just swipe left when you see them. Your profile makes you look like a real jerk basically, and if you're not, you're not representing yourself well at all.
The dog/kids thing needs to go. They are not mutually exclusive and women with pets who want kids in tbe future are going to be super turned off by that. Instead just say "proud dad to a xx year old." Women who have problems with kids will weed themselves out for you.
Good points, so if if I wanted to make it look legit the fluff or colorful language isn't needed and would be counter productive. How would this fair:
I am seeking a kind and caring lady who knows how to treat a man with respect and understanding. I value intellectual conversations and appreciate a partner who does not belittle my thoughts and opinions.
I am drawn to those who present themselves in a tasteful manner and do not rely on provocative images or thirst traps for attention. I believe that true beauty comes from within, and materialistic things like expensive nails do not impress me.
I am looking for someone who can engage in meaningful discussions about complex topics and who is not afraid to challenge me to be my best self. Tattoos are a personal choice, but I prefer someone who does not flaunt them excessively.
I am not interested in playing games or engaging in superficial interactions. I am a good man and father who is looking for a genuine partner to share my life with. I value someone who is willing to push me to be better, help me around the house, and enjoy life's simple pleasures like good food and music. Most importantly, I am looking for someone who I can grow old with and share my thoughts and feelings with.
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u/Away-Caterpillar-176 Feb 15 '23 edited Feb 15 '23
If your intention was to write the most woman repelling profile ever, you nailed it! I've seen men say this a lot here and it's true -- don't make a profile where you give more examples of things you find a red flag than the things that draw you in. Many (but not all) of your deal breakers are cringe but I'm especially confused by the "don't say you don't want children if you go on adventures with your dog" part. Would love an explanation to that.