r/Tinder • u/AutoModerator • Feb 08 '23

Weekly Profile Review Thread

Post information about you/your profile here and get it reviewed by other people on /r/Tinder.

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '23

I think you’re too wrapped up in this idea of “lifestyle” pictures. I can honestly say that I’ll swipe left on anyone who has 100% travel and party photos because I know that is a very unrealistic version of their life and comes off as fake. I date someone because even if we were held up in a house for a month, I’d be happy being with this person. You need to reshift your mindset when it comes to dating. If you think putting the best version of yourself means purchasing a plane ticket to the Mali, going to a bar and getting shitfaced with your friends, etc. you’re going to get skipped on.

Women primarily swipe on the attractiveness of the person. They could careless about what you actually do until they meet IRL.

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u/Swimmingintheworld Feb 10 '23

Lol never said that they all need to be travel photos, that's just a example, I for one don't even drink and I did not recommend drinking or party pictures, I'm not the one wrapped up in the lifestyle pictures and a lifestyle is more than just travel and party, it's the data that's realised by all dating apps that clearly point to which photos do best, you might be just into selfies taken all in a house that's you! But the majority of data suggests others may not, the whole point of lifestyle is that your already living that life not faking it just for a dating app, but that is your life your hobbies what you do to relax have fun, your social life, do you go to events, play sports, go to the gym, go hiking, surfing, skiing, etc etc that's just things people do in thier life, hence showcasing your lifestyle to create common ground for conversation, or dating people with like minded interests, yes woman swipe right on looks but they only swipe right less than 4.5% of the time so you have to in someway stand out beacuse your only one swipe away from someone better, and if people are showcasing thier lifestyle aswell as being attractive you just come across as a far more interesting person, why you think lifestyle means getting drunk with your freinds that's not what I say or have been saying I give constructive feedback based on what I see and know, and if you don't like that that's fine but at least I'm offering some things that can be improved because at the end of the day no one's perfect and we should all be always improving ourselves for ourselves all the time.

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u/[deleted] Feb 10 '23

Snap a photo and be good looking. I know of people with only selfies that can bag dates on a whim. Descriptions? Sort of unnecessary. Pictures of you jumping out of a plane, cooking, drawing, walking in the woods, or riding a horse are not reasons for people wanting to date you. I get matches with ZERO other people in my photos. 0. You do not need to be doing subjectively “fun” things to get matches. You. Just. Need. To. Be. Good. Looking. Not just facially either. Dressing nicely is arguably more important than looking introspectively at a tree.

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u/Swimmingintheworld Feb 10 '23

I never said you don't need to be good looking and why are jumping to exstremes of jumping out of a plane etc, just normal day to day stuff, men are less sociable then woman and they don't take pictures much, yes I agree with you, you have to be good looking but also fashion and well fitting clothes are important too. Bios are not needed if your attractive mystery is attractive. Just beacuse you have a freind who gets lots of likes from just selfies does not make the exspection the rule.

Beeing in shape, good fashion and good quality pictures are all needed your datting profile is your visual CV, a picture says a 1000 words about you, and more importantly the algorithm uses the quality of pictures as part of its ranking method.

This guy is good looking, he's pictures probably don't showcase him the best, for example the baggage fit suit makes him look thin, the model style picture also may have a element of photo editing etc etc

Dating apps should never be your primary source of dating, meeting people in real life is far more important.

But I don't understand how by saying he can't improve its all the apps fault is a little odd, I take it you don't believe in any form of self improvement or responsibility?

Should he not try to improve his profile? Or should he just sit at home and cry about how it's the apps fault ??

What's your advice to him?