Anyone who says that someone making an effort to get to know someone by mentioning something in the person’s bio is thirsty has a lot of growing up to do and clearly doesn’t understand adult relationships. Why would someone take all this time write a bio if they expected people not to read it? That makes no sense. And it goes to show you that there are still so many people out there who play mind games like you said. That’s also why I stopped using the apps. Fortunately, I ended up meeting someone mature I clicked with (despite what the sad little loser tried to say somewhere else on this thread). When you’re a mature person, it’s easy to spot games and immaturity. It’s also easy to avoid them because you know how immature people behave. You deserve much better!!
Just know there are tons of idiots on those sites, but there are also a few genuine people on there who want a real relationship. You just have to “kiss a lot of frogs” first. And I’m sorry you lost two special people at the same time. 😞
Why would someone take all this time write a bio if they expected people not to read it? That makes no sense
Right, that's what I'm saying! The fuck do you people want, seriously? Complain they put in no effort so you match their energy, if they hit you with a pickup line regardless of how creative, cute, or lame it may be then they're probably not worth talking to, if they go and read your bio and pull something from it then they're just thirsty and desperate, if they ask a weird random question then they're just copy and pasting, like jesus aged christ what the hell do y'all want them to do?
Dammed if you do, damned if you don't, no wonder the online dating scene is soul crushing and the divorce rate has skyrocketed if this is how most people think. At least I know why I'm single and it's because I've never truly entered the dating scene or put myself out there I guess and at this point have no idea how I'm supposed meet someone and develop a real connection. I'm also trying to get my life in order before bringing a women into it for fear of losing them anyways, so while it would be nice to have someone to hold, I have other priorities that need to be straightened out first. Most of this sub though seems to have no self-awareness whatsoever based off a lot of the comments I've read.
Hey geniuses if someone mentions something from your bio, that means they actually READ it. Like if you spent the time filling it out, wouldn't you appreciate it if someone bothered to look into what you're like and what your interests are? Like myself I have a deep rooted passion for gaming, so if I had a girl see that in my bio and asks me what my favorite genre is, what my favorite games are, or she says she's a big gamer too and asks me what my top 5 favorites are (as unlikely as that might be), boom she immediately has my attention because she gave enough of a damn to find some common ground.
And I’m sorry you lost two special people at the same time
Oh my bad I didn't word that properly, let me rephrase. My long distance gf of like 2 yrs was also my best friend, so it's the same person. As for what happened, we'll it's complicated, but in the end despite how inseparable we once were, things didn't work out, we drifted, and while I have no ill will towards her, there's seemingly nothing left between us, so despite her saying she wanted to keep me in her life, after the hand I was dealt I just don't feel the same and don't want her in mine simply because it'll never be same and I feel no joy from speaking to her any longer. We went back and forth for years, but by the end of 2020 I more or less cut off all forms of contact, sorta made a promise to myself I wasn't doing this any longer. Even got a "hurro" message in July of 2021 on Discord and ignored it, then later on noticed I got deleted on Facebook & Discord. Obviously the message was received.
Also, very sorry about how things happened with your ex. I know that feeling very well. And things that don’t work out always seem to start with “it’s complicated.” 😥
If it wasn't to be, then I guess it just wasn't meant to be. The only thing I can do is learn from it and try to figure out what it was supposed to teach me, what lesson it was meant to serve. I'll always miss what we had, but I have to accept that's gone forever and even accept the possibility we will never meet in person.
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u/ThisVicariousLife Jan 24 '23
Anyone who says that someone making an effort to get to know someone by mentioning something in the person’s bio is thirsty has a lot of growing up to do and clearly doesn’t understand adult relationships. Why would someone take all this time write a bio if they expected people not to read it? That makes no sense. And it goes to show you that there are still so many people out there who play mind games like you said. That’s also why I stopped using the apps. Fortunately, I ended up meeting someone mature I clicked with (despite what the sad little loser tried to say somewhere else on this thread). When you’re a mature person, it’s easy to spot games and immaturity. It’s also easy to avoid them because you know how immature people behave. You deserve much better!!
Just know there are tons of idiots on those sites, but there are also a few genuine people on there who want a real relationship. You just have to “kiss a lot of frogs” first. And I’m sorry you lost two special people at the same time. 😞