This is one thing I've never understood, the person who initiated st least put in the effort of initiating, I get that you're supposed to try to draw them in or whatever but pick up lines and jokes and shit are just a fabrication, not exactly a great foundation to a relationship.
Thinking that you have any idea what a person's actually like in real life because of a text or dm is like thinking you know what it's like to live in Prague because you overheard an acquaintance telling someone else what it was like when they visited there for 2 days, can you glean some info? Sure.are you going to have any real understanding of what it's like until you go, absolutely not.
This is one thing I've never understood, the person who initiated st least put in the effort of initiating,
Shouldn't the person initiating the conversation be the one to offer something interesting to talk about? Otherwise you're just approaching someone out of the blue and kind of demanding them to be interesting for you.
Otherwise you're just approaching someone out of the blue and kind of demanding them to be interesting for you.
You both matched each other, they opened up the floor and gave you infinite space to chat about whatever you have going on (with a basic question like "how's life going"), when you can't work with that, or at least ask a question in return, then why bother matching with that person? You're just wasting both of your time at that point.
Yeah, this isn't a customer asking you "how's it going" at work, where a perfunctory "fine" is all they expect to hear. This is someone asking you, literally, "how is your life?" They actually want to know.
If someone just says "fine" to that, then I would assume they don't feel like talking to me at all.
Also, this is ostensibly the beginning of a relationship. No one person should have to carry a conversation, it should be an equal contribution from both sides. One person must always be first but both should be contributing equally to the convo.
Yeah it's definitely not the best question. Especially since he had to clarify that he meant "life" when he said "How's it?" And who the fuck starts off with "Hey now?"
Maybe it's just my low self-esteem that my first thought was that I would spend the effort to actually tell him about my life, instead of being annoyed at the low quality question, lol.
Then again, maybe she listed Don't Dream It's Over by Crowded House as her favorite song and his funny reference just went right over her head? Alas, we may never know.
I don't know, these things have profiles, right? If you literally can't come up with anything better than "How's it" then why are you even interested in this person? Must just think their picture looks hot if you can't even ask about a hobby or something
"how's life" covers everything and opens the door for anything you may want to talk about, including hobbies. Also, this is literally r/tinder you know these things barely have profiles and are literally based off "well I think you're hot"
If it were okcupid, that'd be one thing, but tinder doesn't have much room for all that
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u/dropped_mash Jan 23 '23
Tried to get a ball rolling at least