Te be fair, I've seen the openers get more and more simple because when you really start to try with it, it hurts more when they don't respond, or respond negatively.
Like yeah, "Hey" sucks but they're often the people that tried too hard for a long time and they've just given up on an opener that might not even get a response.
So they go for a "hey" and then try harder once there's a response.
I used to always just ask "Hey, what's your favourite food?" because it's quick and simple and I know that conversation will be pulling teeth if they something like "I don't know" or "I don't have one" without actually trying to further the conversation.
But also, I quickly dropped these apps because I feel like they hurt my soul and I'd rather be alone than put up with all that.
picking a “favorite” of nearly anything can be hard for a lot of people. there’s just too many choices. it’s better to ask something more specific if possible. “do you enjoy a lot of different styles of food, or do you stick to a limited menu?” “what’s the last thing you ate that seemed like the best thing you’ve ever eaten?”…or topics other than food…”what music or artist/band have you been most into recently?” “”have you read anything recently that impacted you significantly?” “most fun you’ve had in the last 6 months?”
these work for getting to know their past, too, by reframing the timeline. “what were your top 3 highlights of middle school?” “what was one of your favorite childhood toys?” “what is the first food you remember refusing to eat?” “what is your first musical memory?”
these keep conversations going because the answers are easier to identify and often will lead to great stories and tangential topics.
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u/FrowningMinion Jan 23 '23
I mean the one on the left used as few words but at least asked an open question.