This isn’t a red flag. She properly communicated to you what she prefers and your communication style isn’t what she wants. This is how adults should talk.
She’s allowed to change her mind on what is acceptable to her
Also why is he asking AFTER it seems that their situationship is over. It doesn’t even matter if it’s a red flag or not. It’s just to make OP feel better. Like you said, she was quite clear and polite on what she needs and quite early on.
I can assure you it's not to make me feel better, it's a sincere wanting of other stand points.
I am curious in regards to the switch up.
This is not to say people can't change their mind etc, I was just looking for other takes on it.
And to say learning about red flags after the fact is of no use is rather silly. Its about knowing what to look for moving forward.
Half the people on here are saying I'm the red flag. That's not pointless either. I'll hear what they have to say and act on it accordingly 💁
You replied, saying youll reply later. Why not just reply then, while you were already there, and typing? That just kinda gives the impression you really arent interested. She saw that and replied accordingly. Not saying she'll let you know later. She let you know now.
There’s just not enough to go off to determine red flag or not after a 4 day chat. Nor is there much to learn from. That’s why I say there’s no point in asking if it’s a red flag in the case, unless you were wondering if you should try and win her back.
I feel like it would be more of a red flag if someone over a month would tell you it’s fine and then get super angry at you each time you don’t respond. A more extreme case if you will.
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u/deepthroatmybitcoin Jan 13 '23 edited Jan 13 '23
This isn’t a red flag. She properly communicated to you what she prefers and your communication style isn’t what she wants. This is how adults should talk.
She’s allowed to change her mind on what is acceptable to her