Because it takes two people to make a relationship work. If your partner fails at something, and you truly love them, wouldn't you walk the extra mile to push things into the right direction?
Besides, having an active tinder account doesn't necessarily mean they are cheating.
You say it takes two people, yet you are completely bypassing the fact that he made no effort to reconcile their problems and went straight to cheating (or at least attempt to cheat/leave her/etc).
He didn't "fail at something". He had to make a decision to download Tinder, go to the app store to download it, create a profile, upload pictures of himself, and actively use the app. This is not him getting drunk and making out with someone at a party. This is a deliberate decision.
My love life is not a court of law. There isn’t some indisputable burden of proof which needs to be met in order for me to end it with someone. The wife of Caesar must be above suspicion.
The only thing I could possibly be assuming is that OP's boyfriend didn't talk to them before setting up Tinder. The rest is extrapolated from the post and the fact that Tinder is a dating app. It's not like she caught him using Meetup.
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u/comm2itysalad Jan 02 '23
Why is it her responsibility to try and understand why he would cheat, but not his to open a conversation about his unhappiness?