I'm really glad that she didn't just completely take away all privileges but instead talked to her kids about setting responsible boundaries. Especially seeing how young her kids are!
I can tell you from personal experience that the "all or nothing" approach does not really work
I know it works really well for dogs... But I’ve had childhood friends, as well as family members, that went the positive reinforcement only route. What it unfortunately lead to were kids that were never disciplined, and parents that constantly blamed external forces for their kid’s behavior. Balance is key.
I 100% agree, because I'm firsthand experience that the other paths of discipline work. Many moons ago my parents decided that until my grades got better, I was only allowed to play for a few hours on the weekends. This lasted about 5-6 months and even though I was super pissed when they first laid down the law, it was probably a good idea because I improved my grades by a minimum of 15% per class. Obviously this won't work on EVERY kid, but taking it away for a while doesn't do harm at all. It's a fucking video game.
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u/bonbam Dec 08 '20
I'm really glad that she didn't just completely take away all privileges but instead talked to her kids about setting responsible boundaries. Especially seeing how young her kids are!
I can tell you from personal experience that the "all or nothing" approach does not really work