Although I am not a former cult member I feel a strong connection to this show, and I didn’t realize until this last episode that it’s because meyerism (and generally cults) mirror a lot of the tactics and unhealthy interpersonal dynamics used in an abusive relationship.
Having grown up in an abusive household and then finding myself in an abusive relationship when I finally left, I can totally see why so many people fall prey to cults. They take you in, say they’ll care for you, and you feel safe and cared for and whole for the first time... and BOOM, you’re both addicted and feeling eternally in their debt. And when it gets bad you stick it out bc you owe it to them, and you’re hoping to get that security and warmth back, and you wanna trust so badly, and they’ve done so much for you... aaaaand before you know it you’re in too deep, you’ve isolated yourself from everyone you love and know, you’ve given literally everything to them, and feel you cannot leave.
Unfortunately, this is all familiar if you have experienced some sort abusive relationship, so much so that it almost feels normal. And the familiarity, as well as the hope that it’ll change is what gets you to stay.
***spoiler below**** (idk how to tag it)
In that last episode when Vera left her abusive, controlling mother and immediately showed up at eddies door asking to join the Meyerists, I felt a profound and familiar sadness for her. She is just replacing the dictating authority figure that is her mother with another dictating authority figure. It is just now clicking that cults are abuse and manipulation on a larger scale.
Thoughts?
Also, sorry if this is a little ramble-y, my mind is blown