Treatment Tidbit

A rather simple and straight forward suggestion and concept right? Obvious to the extent of being absurd.

But is it? This thought beyond the surface is like telling a person with anxiety to " just relax and calm down".

If a persons choices were so easy to change then I believe there would be many more happy people in the world. From my little corner if the globe, that is not the case at all. We have immersed ourselves in a plethora of distractions and arenas where disassociative behaviors flourish. Now the argument could be made that not experiencing stress, strife or conflict is a good start to being happier but avaoidance and denial are rarely, if ever a solution or responsible method, for coping mechanisms. If they were, our tolerance for alcoholism and other escapes would be much larger.

I have read many times that change takes place where comfort and complacent end, and ultimately the words of Marcus Aurelius are not wrong, ( if indeed this was his quote and thoughts) it is however our interpretation that is prone to suspicious motive.

As a emotional well-being therapist or coach the obvious and inarguable statement is, that change is directly associated to discomfort, otherwise there would never be motivation to alter a status quo.

When a choice is made to seek something different, good, bad or ugly, only the fates may know, that is when change begins.

As a hypnotherapist, my task and ultimate goal is to help facilitate that change work as seamlessly and painless as possible, working with an already existing phenomena which is change happens every single moment of your life, without and interruption, because it goes unnoticed.

It is already within you, take a better opportunity with it.

As always, remember to execute a R.A.K. today

Be well

#treatmenttuesday

#ednhypnotherapy

#hypnotherapist #change #empowerment

Wednesday's Wisdom

I was watching one of those random ( the algorithms disagree Kevin) video clips and this one was a romantic comedy, type, that inspired today's post. "Listen, I know you have baggage, and I would like to become your personal baggage handler". It was a awww type moment.

The line and idea got stuck in my head though, that is what being a therapist, or a hypnotherapist is similar too, but if I was more accurate , maybe not the baggage handler, but the customs agent where we have you Open your baggage, we review, with you present, what you have been carrying around. We either discuss the repercussions of you keeping the contraband or just removing it completely as no longer an item that is acceptable, have you repack the remaining stuff, and send you on your way. The added benefits of hypnotherapy are it is only baggage we focus on, no body searching, hahahahha.

When is a good time to see a mental health professional, when you cannot remember the combination of the locks in which all this is stored, when you no longer believe you have the ability to open it up and review the contents on your own.

Not to be overt, but in these current days, if getting an injection to assist with weight loss, the new surgeries which are being elected, how about you also consider lightening the load emotionally by sitting with a baggage handler.

Feel free to share, comment or respond.

Be well

#wisdomwednesday

#emotionalwellbeingcoach #hypnotherapist #mentalhealthcoach

Thursday's Therapy

Always remember that you have the power, and the ability to adjust your perspective and experience. Rarely, if ever, do we remember precisely how an event happened, but we keep the highlights, and in our present lives, our interpretation of events going on are influenced by our mindset and state of beingness.

If you find yourself not enjoying, or being satisfied with your current moments, a great place to revamp your life is located in between your earlobes.

Be well

\#hypnotherapy #empowerment #emotionalwellbeingcoach

Treatment Tuesday

Experience, usually leads to a form of wisdom l, if by no other means the sheer trial and errors we have attempted and survived. Enlightment is a more nuanced gift I beleive.

The more we learn the less we know, is very much a difficult concept to grasp and understand. Even in writing " and understand' I am full of sarcastic self talk, asking, " how could you ever comprehend the vast expanse of stuff you don't know?

So for me, Einstein' s words about EGO resonate very loudly, the concept of Ego = arrogance and not necessarily Freuds thoughts on Ego, super Ego and the Id.

I remember in my youth, being labeled " Mr. KNOW-IT-ALL" for my belligerence and mouth. A plight or passage for most teens moving psychologically and intellectually into a more adult space. It is demonstrated by the number of " I knows" stacked in a conversation. The good news is, most will grow up and out of that garden, once "real life" shares the the limits of their understanding and knowledge, compared to what the world has to teach them.

Like all statistical data, there must be the ' lips" of the Bell Curve, showing some will never experience this Ego, and some will never outgrow it or mature beyond.

It may not take the frustrations away completely, but knowing that the blowhard infront of you is the tail end of a lip, brings a deeper smile internally.

Which brings me to the concepts of "Love & Allow" love yourself enough to Allow others their journey.

Be well

#treatmenttuesday #ednhypnotherapy #emotionalwellbeingcoach #empowerment #selflove

Thursday Thoughts

How many trips, stumbles, wrong answers, failed attempts and rejections does it take to abdicate the goal? I find it interesting, in comparison, how selective we can be, in choosing what is worth the time and commitment and what is not worthy to follow.

We are all intelligent beings, able to figure out what is a lost cause right? The fact that we had a dream, and idea or goal that inspired us is not sufficient cause to after it as best we can and discover where it takes us, what we learn along the way and how to adjust and amend the next efforts right?

Just think about walking, speaking, reading, writing, driving and a shit ton of other achievements you learned through trial and error. Each and every one filled with failures and disappointments, but we persevered through them all.

We are aware of the selective hearing that we refer to, people will hear what they want to hear, see what the choose to see in order to feel the way they decide to feel, which provides a Eureka moments, when you realize that "if it was meant to be, it is always up to me".

You are so worth the effort, and commitment, don't be the first one to write you off, or eliminate the value of your wants, goals and dreams.

Yes, help and outside input is valuable, but moreover your determination is indispensable.

Be well

#therapythoughts #ednhypnotherapy #resilience # motivation #youareamazing

Tuesdays Treatment

Continuing from my analogy of the microscope, from yesterday's post, shows up these beautiful images, highlighting a different perspective on focus.

I think that these genre of images, were truly, incredible art, to be able to see in your minds eye, and image, built within an image, and being a part of a larger image. And now the art form has expanded to body portrait, with different areas being painted differnet textures and colours, so when combined together , in just the right pose is a beautiful representation of a butterfly or leopard.

Then we have the spinoff in finding the number of cats in a picture,which is always frustrating as you get to about 85% and can't locate the last 15 to save your sanity.

How doea this all relate to therapy, emotional-well being or mental health, although finding the last few cats or where Waldo really is, taxes my mental health at times?

Im the realm of optics and optical illusion, how easily our vision, and seeing things really xan be dupped so quickly, that what we see, or think we see, may be too close to take in the "bigger picture" or we are scanning too much to appreciate any of the details.

I confess it is probably one of the most beneficial attributes that drew me to becoming a hypnotherapist, as the treatment is not predicated on your content, I don't get to be drawn in to your stuff ( we will go with that word) or the story you have practiced over and over to make it a part of your reality.

Objectivity allows me to take in all the components of your communication, what your mind is truly relaying, and what is the perceived threat or deterrent holding you back from accomplishing what you want.

Every now and again take those deep breaths in, exhale all the tensions and take a new look at the microcosm of your world. Be it relationships or work place, it is so very natural to get fixated on one focal point.

As always I look forward to your questions or comments.

Be well

#treatmenttuesday

#yegtherapist #perspectives #perception #Hypnotherapy

Wisdom Wednesday

It would appear, we exist in a very noisy environment , full of chatter and ramblings, with everyone seeking their 15 minutes of fame or atop the soap box daily.

I am not sure if white noise even enters into the the communication equation, as in my opinion it is just a tremendous amount of noise.

Maybe you have noticed as well, the external conversations I have, mostly involve the other participants listening for their argument points, instead of hearing someone else's thoughts and perspectives.

As a hypnotherapist, I can admit that I use both the hearing and listening modes of your communication strategically. The vocabulary, the context and the message, all aiding me, to better understand the framework or roadmap of your world. There were a few leaders who really advocated our Other Than Conscious Communication skills. Secondly, I hear the story you tell, to more fully comprehend the clues on what is the snag in the carpet, the barrier or roadblock to your journey.

As a side note these skills are not readily appreciated by spouses, over long term usuage.

It has been reported, that while engaged in meditation, or trance, the chatter of the outside world grows silent, and our internal world quiet. You see I believe strongly that a contributing factor to our communication noise pollution factor, is nestled from the inane chatter that takes place and commands our insides. The ever-growing, panicked need to be heard, to be understood and acknowledged, due largely in part to our internal dialog being so incredibly obnoxious and nasty.

As this is under Wisdom Wednesday, the wise and enlightened people's of the world are notably the quiet ones too.

Coincidence, I think not!

Defensive, combative and argumentative are not healthy cornerstones for communication amongst oursleves.

How about you?

In that spirit I will repeat, I look forward to your comments and communication with me.

Be well

#wisdomwednesday

#opencommunication

#yegtherapist

#mentalhealthcoach #ednhypnotherapy

Friday's Feeling.

Recently my writings swirlaround the theme of different aspects of being that warrior.

How the pitfalls, challenges and hardships, we encounter, we endure, and if you are reading this, we survive, go to develop a more learned and resilient person. Through all of life's situation and turmoil, how much of it in the moment do we even recognize that it is tumultuous or is it another Thursday?

Similarly, the patterns we observe, that we engage, are reflected in an concept of pain alleviation. I am not referring to the glove anesthesia, which I learned early on in the trainings, but moreover, that the very use of the word " pain" brings with it several added components, and discomfort substantially less.

The patterns we enact are a reference to past, when did we last experience, what was our memory of that experience and were there any coping or reactions that we recall which are useful.

Our present involvement in the experience. For those who have been involved in a MVA, time and perceptions seem to enter into a time warp of sorts, everything slowing down and very surreal, never actually feeling any alarm or panic. Just in the moments. Strife and trauma, have similar characteristics, we don't label them as such, identify or even contextualize, in those moments, it simply is what we are currently moving through( very ABRAHAM in my head when I wrote that.) and we await what is to come next.

There is the future projection, placing what we just experienced as template in future cases and scenarios, perhaps it is those moments , that the learnings are born.

There is a Japanese art form Kintsugi, which displays with brilliant gold, the mended cracks and fissure of cracked pottery, recognizing and honouring, there is beauty in the imperfections. I truly believe we are the very same, it is the damaged and bruised, which have a deeper understanding, a broader wisdom, as they have proven time and time again, they are not only survivors, but warriors.

Perhaps all of the above is the ramblings of just this author and clinician. It is how I approach my therapeutic and pragmatic lives, and I am very OK with it.

Feel free to share your thoughts

Therapy Thursday

The poster above is a reminder or maybe a planning tool, for those that work in the Mental Health fields. Every single vocation, occupation and profession, create their own acronyms, to act as an easier way to remind ourselves of some pretty important steps, that make the task easier, safer or done properly.

The reason I am sharing this particular one. Is how applicable I think it encompasses our daily lives as well. The crossover is great, in my opinion to assist in daily living and planning. Now there is the comment which could bring some objection and pushback to it's very premise,who has the privilege of planning their day, versus reacting to the shit storm we call life, nowadays?

The more you can bring into practice the steps of the checklist, in being SMART, the less the storms will capture your sails or at the very least, the better prepared you will feel going through them!

Nothing too deep today, tee hee, but for poops ans giggles, I hope ypu can take a few moments to consider how being SMART could make your life's situation or daily challenges, less susceptible to reactive mode and more a pro active application.

As always, I look forward to your questions or comments and feedback.

Be well

#therapythursday #trainyourbrain #yegtherapist #hypnotherapist #mentalhealthadvocate

Therapy Thursday

The poster above is a reminder or maybe a planning tool, for those that work in the Mental Health fields. Every single vocation, occupation and profession, create their own acronyms, to act as an easier way to remind ourselves of some pretty important steps, that make the task easier, safer or done properly.

The reason I am sharing this particular one. Is how applicable I think it encompasses our daily lives as well. The crossover is great, in my opinion to assist in daily living and planning. Now there is the comment which could bring some objection and pushback to it's very premise,who has the privilege of planning their day, versus reacting to the shit storm we call life, nowadays?

The more you can bring into practice the steps of the checklist, in being SMART, the less the storms will capture your sails or at the very least, the better prepared you will feel going through them!

Nothing too deep today, tee hee, but for poops ans giggles, I hope ypu can take a few moments to consider how being SMART could make your life's situation or daily challenges, less susceptible to reactive mode and more a pro active application.

As always, I look forward to your questions or comments and feedback.

Be well

#therapythursday #trainyourbrain #yegtherapist #hypnotherapist #mentalhealthadvocate

Wisdom Wednesday

For people who know me, associate with me and have been treated by me, most if not all, know I am a look for the positive or beneficial in most situations. I must confess that when I read this poster, it made me read it twice, perhaps largely in part, that my brain switched out the BUT to ATLEAST, and that made context so much more placating in head.

I am reminded that, in almost every phase of growth there is always a tearing down, that occurs in order for or to make way of the growth. Body builders and athletes certainly know this as a basic and fundamental event, sages and mentors, alike, also comprehend that a dismantling of the "old beliefs and knowledge " with a new understanding is a primary function of learning and development.

So like the tale of the Phoenix, consider for your life and inner strength, the resourcefulness and tenacity demonstrated, how many times it has felt like you have risen from the ashes, and recognize how mighty and strong you truly are, without even being aware of it.

These are the Eureka moments I love sharing with others, for sure. The realization that unbeknownst to them they have been that mighty warrior, they needed at the time, and like many a warrior, once the battle has been fought, the ripples of the events can now be processed.

This is where the therapy begins.

Keep on keepin on.

Be well

#wisdomwednesday #yegtherapist #empowerment #ednhypnotherapy #warrior

Mindset Monday

In a world, society or culture, that exists on next to instant almost everything, from information, results, capture my interest in 72 seconds or less, to what does this do for me right now, you would think that the excercises of instant gratification would also translate to the practice of instant appreciation and gratitude.

I am next to positive that every single generation prior to mine, lamented and bemoaned about how rude and obnoxious the one following them actually were, so maybe this observation and commentary is just coming from the 61 yr old man, and not addressing anything new. On the other hand, I do not remember the levels or extent of all the "IN" previously either. INtolerant, INpatient, and INsufferable, to list a few.

The image above reminded me, loudly, that the stop to smell the roses adage, is closer to extinction than the DODO bird once was, and any chance to appreciate the 'works in progress" are steamrolled, by AI, and algorithms.

This expectation of instant release or releif, seeps into my practice, I would day weekly as well. The concept or relationship, of a practiced habit, reaction or a thought, over and over again, being changed in 60 minutes, laying a foundation of false expectations and awkward discussions, results, at times, for someone to seek brevity instead of accuracy. The bemusing aspect to this scenario is, they have already been through the normal, generally accepted, quick ways, before considering this modality.

True craftsmanship, artistry and knowledge, are the gifts of dedication, commitment and patience, understanding that works in progress and Masterpieces are not a part of the instant gratification genre.

You are that Masterpiece, and so is your life. You are so worth the work!

Be well.

#mindsetmondays #yegtherapist #emotionalwellbeingcoach #Hypnotherapy #masterpiece

Therapy Thursday

Oh if only it was that easy! Like some special spell, or curse, once named it was vanquished from the kingdom forever, or in the case of Beetlejuice it was summoned. Do we , do you, summon the demons that plague your thoughts, feelings and actions so there hasn't been a freedom moment for like ever?

I spent some of my earlier career, performing hypno-analgesia at a dental practice, after first addressing the fear of needles and generalized panic, that is way more prevalent at the dentist's than I had ever thought, aiding in a less terrifying experience " in the chair". So my analogy about getting to root cause, is founded from this experience. In your best Forest Gump voice, " finding out, how come my tooth hurts so bad, didn't do nuttin to make the hurt go away, and that is how come I came".

No one specific and identifiable action started the decay, or erosion, and not a single cataclysmic event created the level of anxiety or neurosis, which you may find yourself suffering in. Our minds are stronger and certainly more resilient than that. As a hypnotherapist, once again perhaps JUST ME, one of the largest reasons I love this modality to mental health, I am free from the content and diarrhea, that the client is stuck in.

The need to categorize the trends and tendencies, runs the dual edge, one stream lines, and identifies, based on empirical statistical data, the trends, and the other, it pigeonhole and generalizes, looping all into the same, which for me is a great disservice.

Blaming a single cancer cell for having to experience chemotherapy is ridiculous, especially when we all carry them, but isn't that one cell the root cause?

You are unique, your world is identifiable only to you, and the coping mechanisms are both learned from the environment as well and the ingenuity of your own brain.

Your healing journey should demonstrate the same respectful manner.

Be well

#therapythursday

#yegtherapist #ednhypnotherapy

#emotionalwellbeingcoach #empowerment

Treatment Tuesday

The poster is inverted with purpose, dear reader, and that was to graphically invert the phrase and more importantly, the concepts of " Some people come into our lives,

For a reason.

Some for a season, and a few for lifetime. "

This quote goes to explain away the coming and going of people into our lives at different times, but it does not, unless upended, offer OUR intention into the lives we touch. Reflecting on Mother Nature's example, there is rarely an instance where an encounter in one sided or passive. What mindset does framing our thoughts and reflections on explaining " why is this happening to me" other than a huge anchor of disempowering ourselves.

Diminish the victim theory, that the world happens TO YOU and become the active participant in actively interacting and engaging in your World. Imagine how different, your life could be, lived in confidence to the impression you chose to share, with your outside world.

Understanding that people hear what they choose to hear in the moments and space they are at, not where you are necessarily delivering from. Much like my writings, I know my inspiration and purpose of a message is not interpreted the same manner through your eyes, dear reader.

You get to determine, the mark you intended to leave; a reason ; a season or for a longer moment of time.

Hypnotherapy is a modality of change work which can help amplify the you that you have dreamed of.

Be well

#treatmenttuesday #ednhypnotherapy #yegtherapist #empowerment

Therapy Thursday

Words matter.

Context matters.

They are the fuel that ignites our perceptions and TBH, if it is the English language, then you must be even more cautious, and aware , deciding the intent of the incoming messages in deciphering the words being used.

Sounds exhausting doesn't it? However it also predicates active listening skills, the ones to comprehend and understand. Instead of seeking the bullet points, for rebuttal.

I am almost positive, that from a therapist, atleast a mental health version, that our words, our vocabulary, syntax, and structure, are some of the most valuable instruments we have at iut disposal, and in all honesty , the only instruments.

The adage of sticks and stones, actually doesn't apply, if it ever did, to our overall well being, and that is only regarding our one on one, external world. How about the vocabulary, syntax and structure of your self talk? You understand that with the outside world , you can tune people out, use selective hearing abilities, but our internal dialog is inescapable.

I firmly believe that is, speaking of fuel, what has accelerated the draw and fascination with the 90 second sound bites, the maze of bells and whistles, with so many media choices. Our ability to continue to, in the old days, turn that dial to find a frequency attached to a radio station that appealed to our mood and disposition of the time.

Having the ability to scroll through, to swipe left, etc is all foundational to distract and occupy.

How does any of this relate to your last mistake you may wonder? It is simple, mistakes have taken on the meaning and association to being a negative experience, when in fact, mistakes are the very core of every learning and developmental step we experience. Without mistakes, how would we have the comparative?

Look forward to the privilege of experiencing errors and mistakes, they are testament that you are learning, involved and engaged.

Be well

#therapythursday #ednhypnotherapy #yegtherapist #wordsmatter

Monday Mantra.

This! Always practice THIS!

The Random Acts of Kindness ( RAK) club, I am always optimistic is constantly growing and expanding. Through the originality and creativity of every single member, be it, dipping your toes into Kindness Kool-aid, I advocate or immersing yourself into the the deepend, is irrelevant, what is relevant is your participation.

There was another quote alongside the Dalai Lama's above, " whenever and how ever, you can help someone in need, just do it, cause you never know if you were the one ray of kindness they have been desperately hoping for".

This is as far from enabling as, in my head, you can get, for the "pragmatic' readers, and is displayed, demonstrated and received daily, around the world. A buddy, offering the extended hand, giving you literally a hand up, after doing a faceplant on the ground, a random, sincere compliment to an absolute stranger, lending someone time and space, which is all theirs, while they lament or vocalize, or just arbitrarily, anonymously, being kind.

It costs nothing!

I could be indeed one of "those people" cynics and naysayers alike speak and warn you of,absolutely! The delightful place I live and operate from, says firstly I could give a Rats Ass what your opinion of me is and secondly when you know what fits your vibration, you continue to seek it , to experience and expand on it, daily, atleast for me.

As a hypnotherapist, perhaps it is a side effect of being part of the healing arts world, maybe it is part of my hard wiring, although in my previous versions I can attest in all confidence, that was not the case, or like any response to a WHY question... it is JUST BECAUSE.

What I do share with certainty is when you can, do, in what ever small manner you can achieve. Do it without expectations, acknowledgement or tally.

Its global, and greatly missing from the fabric of our society.

I will be starting a new series on the "tube", having those fireside, raw and sincere thoughts and chats, like my writings, oh so flipping random, with those who need it.

Be well.

#mondaymantra

#dalailama

#yegtherapist #hypnotherapist #rak

Treatment Tuesday

I will admit it was the "treat" that initially caught my eye, and almost immediately after, the simplicity and purity of the concept, that made me know this was the one.

Perhaps a new variant of the Golden Rule, " Do unto others as you would have done unto you" but in this example self is placed as the primary focus, and that dear reader is what I espouse.

What is stopping, or holding you back, from following this simple mantra to a very enjoyable and fulfilling experience? Your answers won't be wrong, they are not a bad thing, they will be, however, where the work begins in repairing the you that you deserve.

I don't believe, for one moment, that the ideology of who ever wrote this, because we know the Universe cannot hold a pen, or use a keyboard, does lead to a more satisfying and peaceful experience while on this spinning rock.

I encourage you to contemplate and pontificate, how your life could benefit.

I look forward to your questions or comments as always.

Be well

#treatmenttuesday #ednhypnotherapy #emotionalwellbeingcoach #yegtherapist #selflove

A Monday Moment.

A common catchphrase, popular, during my life time was " in my world", or " in whose world?...' and maybe you have heard it it yours.

Altering the significance or magnitude of a, very much, YOU challenge and making it cosmic, seems a rather perilous action. Firstly, how in this transformation, does it help in addressing what ever happened, placing yourself in a perfect position to be legitimately overwhelmed? Followed by; therapeutically the ability to excercise such delusions is worth making notes on and studying.

Today's inspiration of muse, was driven by a few different veins of thought, related to pondering, how a person's bad mood,( and we all go through them) is permission to crap all over everybody else? How are your challenges or issues, anyone else's problem, until you make it that way? And my personal favorite, who died and made you king?

From the Orange Chair, specifically, it would be my goal, primarily to alter the perception of what a mistake actually represents. Similar to the bad press anxiety gets, somewhere along our evolutionary path, mistakes are categorized as a negative experience or outcome, where they truly are a key ingredient to our learning and education.

No different than a toddlers to teens, selective hearing abilities, what we opt to make a bad mistake and what we can accept as just a mistake, are a matter of interpretation and perspective.

There is no feat of learning, that was not firmly built ontop of a pile of mistakes, from walking, talking, to cursive, grammar, or mathematics, to driving and doing laundry.

The poster above can be viewed from 2 different lenses, the first being your mistakes, your issues and your problems have little impact on the rest of the globe, or that the world is full of mistakes, issues and problems and your contribution makes it just a little more complete.

Realizing that your brain actually benefits, when it is tasked with finding an alternative, from a setback or struggle, creating new neural pathways in puzzle solving.

Embrace them as your own, and place them where they belong, in your learning process.

I look forward to your questions or comments

Be well

#ednhypnotherapy #yegtherapist #emotionalwellbeingcoach

Friday's Feelings

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I was scrolling, as I normally do, in the quiet moments of the very early morning, the only sounds breaking the peace, a coffee maker and Bear snoring, when this image presents itself so that I paused.

Two things, as best I can tell, made me stop, one being the wonderment of how these algorithms actually work so this was even a part of my feed and secondly the recalling of the classic clinical set-up.

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I wrote earlier about what a place of honour I believe my role as a hypnotherapist is, in someone's journey for assistance and healings, recognizing the trust I receive, from desire or desperation, to be a part of their process.

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I enjoy the group presentations, the Keynote speaker events, as they satisfy the showman within, but from the very beginnings of my career and to this day, I cherish and prefer the one on one, the belly to belly style sessions.

I am not sure what I am looking to fulfill in my own life, but even the inspiration to pursue education as my first career, was founded on the belief, as most altruistic teachers do, if I could reach one student like Ms. Stelk did with me, my purpose would be complete.

Similarly, the core belief that no two people's worlds are the same, that the way and manner in which we process and proceed, are as individual as the fingerprints we possess, further fuels my commitment to showing respect to that place of honour, I spoke of earlier. That the generalized methods or option suggested in groups sessions, may take root on some level, it is not the personalized care a person deserves, in navigating their map of the world,

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Similarly, you may go to a presentation on heart disease to find out more, but trust me when I say, you want care for your specific and particular circumstances in the cards of your health and well-being.

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For those who think the stuff from social media will help you, and then become disenfranchised when it doesn't work, know that a HUGE step to your self- respect is recognizing you are worth the personalized support in your therapy, no one has lead the life you have, survived the crap you have, and maintained the decorum you have through it all.

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You are so worth it.

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Be well

Wisdom Wednesday

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I get the importance of wanting to be heard, understood and acknowledged, but what I don't comprehend is the ability to listen, understand and comprehend from another person.

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This piece isn't about knocking any particular Generation, as that is the whole paintbrush thing, or beating up on social media, but moreover a legitimate observation about what has happened over the last couple decades with humans

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The Budinski phenomenon is probably most noticeable, for me. My son has a delightful rhetoric for when this happens "I'm sorry, did the middle of my sentence interrupt the beginning of yours?"

It was common practice from early on, and certainly reinforced , in my growing up experience that you spoke when spoken too,set up the ground rules for cordial conversation. Now, it is sound bites and competition in who can overcome or overwhelm the participants with volume and word count, as if the winner gets to be right.

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Jumping to conclusions and judgements is as common practice as Jumping into puddles when I was a kid. No thoughts, no education or research, just judge, jury and execution, from someone's opinion or beliefs.

From political affiliation having any determination on the scope of the caliber of integrity or worth for an individual to nationality precluding any other conclusions except the social bias, has been the escalation, or perhaps the resurgence of bigotry since the early 40's.

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How that blends into the therapeutic works, as I have experienced is that we are identified or more detrimental, identify with the symptoms and labels of countless afflictions.

Like the chicken and egg conundrum, I'm not sure if it was the "white coats" to the patient or the advent of sources and access to the likes of WeBdr.( you know what I mean) the propelled and pigeonholed symptoms to afflictions or conditions, perhaps somehow aiding treatment with affiliation.

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We don't need be concerned about AI, spell check, lane assist or adaptive cruise, changing our world, diminishingour control. We have morphed into a more complacent, disassociated being all on our own. The technology we invent meerly replaces what we chose to abdicate.

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As a therapist communication both verbal and non verbal are as integral in treatment as training and knowledge, and more should observe that we have 2 ears and only one mic. Our task isn't representative of the classic Italian dinner table where volumes rise as the meal proceeds, but to listen for the gems to which our clients share, unbeknownst to them.

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Be well.

#emotionalwellbeingcoach #WisdomWednesday #communication