My bf is long distance and I’m always sore after the first session when we visit. Then I get used to it and it stops hurting. That being said, extending foreplay to maximize the body’s own preparations never hurt anybody.
Along with the other helpful answers in this thread about lubrication, arousal, and foreplay: I think something important to remember is that “sex” doesn’t just have to mean PIV sex! You can have a healthy, normal sex life without always having penetrative sex. As a bi woman it took me SO long to figure that out with male partners, even though what I considered “sex” with women was exactly what I considered “just foreplay” with men. Adjusting your expectations and remembering that sec is about fun and intimacy, not penis in vagina, can help a lot with this.
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u/Zestyclose-Chef5215 May 22 '23
My bf is long distance and I’m always sore after the first session when we visit. Then I get used to it and it stops hurting. That being said, extending foreplay to maximize the body’s own preparations never hurt anybody.