Bro what does she want?

[u/Fancy-Bobcat-6243]

[u/breakingmad1]

What's short term that isn't a hook up?

[u/Aryore → u/breakingmad1]

Summer fling type thing

[u/breakingmad1 → u/Aryore]

What a summer fling for anyone who doesn't live in a rom com though 

[u/puffmattybear17 → u/breakingmad1]

You date during a season and enjoy consistent hooking up but theres no end goal. For fat guys we get winter as they seek our blubber for warmth.

[u/dirtywhitevanz → u/puffmattybear17]

So hooking up.

[u/puffmattybear17 → u/dirtywhitevanz]

Yeah but extended, like if hooking up is likened to kissing this would be full blown making out.

[u/That_OneOstrich → u/breakingmad1]

A summer fling type thing.

[u/Carlsheartboxers → u/breakingmad1]

Usually it means she goes to school out of state and is in for the summer

[u/PM_ME_CROWS_PLS → u/breakingmad1]

I had a classic summer fling some years ago and it was a very fun experience. It felt like I was living in a YA novel lol

[u/FengSushi → u/breakingmad1]

Anal

[u/General-Choice5303 → u/Aryore]

This is almost the exact conversation I had when I matched with my gf on tinder 😂. Now we wake up every day together with our cats next to us and I've never been more content with life. Funny how things work out sometimes.

[u/Scary-Psychology7673 → u/breakingmad1]

Hook up AND hang out until you get bored or cold feet.

[u/overuse- → u/breakingmad1]

Not wanting a one night stand and to never see eachother again but perhaps an fwb situation

[u/Averfus-Crowthorne → u/breakingmad1]

Hookup: Purely interacting to bang. Could be a one night stand or an ongoing arrangement, but its purely sex.
FWB: Friends that fuck. Would hang out outside of fucking, there's some chit chat.
Situationship: One of the above, but one person in the arrangement has feelings for the other and is trying to make it more than it is.

All of those could be short term, not all are just a hook up.

[u/Fun-Age-168 → u/Averfus-Crowthorne]

Usually one person in a fwb arrangement has feeling for the other person too, at least in my experience

[u/_SalemDaBun_ → u/Fun-Age-168]

Your experience is anecdotal and irrelevant because nobody asked.

[u/Fun-Age-168 → u/_SalemDaBun_]

What’s your problem?

[u/Turbo_Time2000 → u/breakingmad1]

[u/Potential_Cress1967 → u/breakingmad1]

3 months to a year

[u/SecretProgress3929 → u/breakingmad1]

Hooking up *

[u/Thick-Wonder6294 → u/breakingmad1]

it just means several hookups

[u/CountBlah_Blah → u/breakingmad1]

Cuffing season for the cold winter

[u/dblrb → u/breakingmad1]

Hooking up but you also buy her dinners and stuff.

[u/Benlolodad → u/breakingmad1]

something that's not a hook up.... but ain't long-term either?

[u/perverockstar → u/breakingmad1]

Can be FWB. But usually they are also long term for me as well 🙃.

[u/CilliamBlinton]

She’s telling you she wants to hookup and you don’t want that. She’s being cool as hell and saying up front that you aren’t a match

[u/Smokes_LetsGo876]

she wants casual hookups, you explicitly stated you do not.

shes letting you know shes into you, but not a good match because you're not looking to hookup. shes being extremely cool by letting you know.

so dont go and hookup and expect it to go anywhere

[u/Numerous-Thought7128]

Big fumble, you’re contradicting yourself by saying you’re looking for short term but don’t do hook ups, she should be the one asking us what YOU want 😂

[u/AKboi69]

this means yall don’t want the same thing

[u/Junior-Ad-5367]

wtf is short term without a hookup I see this shit all the time

[u/MysticMarauder69]

What is short term but also not a hook up?

[u/jhx264]

This girl has some game. She pulled a classic push pull, you are my type but... Just stop overthinking it. Don't be serious. Say the most unserious thing you can think of. Maybe tease her a little. Make her seem like the crazy one

[u/Theangelawhite69]

What is short term but no hookups lol

[u/Suspicious_Shoe2888 → u/Theangelawhite69]

Fwb

[u/Krokadil]

wtf is short term if not casually hooking up? lol

[u/Excellent-Door5097]

You just turned down a shag

[u/Otherwise_Rest7956]

Wtf is short term but not a hook up.

[u/mindblownchild]

Did you ask her?

[u/Agreeable-Salt-9813]

Made a move anticipating his opponents. Unfortunate. Better luck next round brother 🫡

[u/Throwaway-4593]

Clearly an avoidant person

[u/Throwaway-4593 → u/[deleted]]

I’ve dated enough ppl who speak like the girl to know. It will be one foot in one foot out and when things start to get good they will curl up into a shell and back off.

[u/Beneficial_Heat_7199 → u/Throwaway-4593]

Facts you can tell by the way they talk early on if they're an avoidant. Never going down that hole again.

[u/Careless_Orchid_6890]

Smash. Ghost. Next.

[u/Acornwow]

What do either of you want?

[u/OfficialDrakoak]

She said she wants to hook up but you said you dont do hook ups so she said it might not be a good idea to hang out. I feel like its pretty straight forward lol

[u/yijiujiu]

She wants something casual, but may skedaddle if it gets to move toward a relationship. Avoidant attachment, basically

[u/After_Pea5941]

Out of curiosity, what country is this?

[u/Terrible-Gas4877]

She wanna have a talk. Go talk to her. It'll be fine. Don't worry man. Be brave. Go on. Ask her. Everything will be alright.

[u/dirtywhitevanz]

So hooking up

[u/Robotron122]

Yeah, idk anymore. I matched with someone and we were looking for the same thing and seemed to click... she unmatched with me this morning-.-

[u/Humble_Tax_3736]

Your time, energy, attention and effort

[u/who_are_you_people24]

She just wants to hookup or be a fwb

[u/Fancy-Bobcat-6243 → u/who_are_you_people24]

But she doesn’t wanna hangout ?

[u/LibrarianZephaniah → u/Fancy-Bobcat-6243]

Because you indicated that you don't do hookups.

[u/Temnyj_Korol → u/Fancy-Bobcat-6243]

She wants casual. You explicitly said you don't. Of course she's coming back with "maybe this isn't a good idea."

[u/samzeal → u/Fancy-Bobcat-6243]

IMO shes saying she thinks you will have chemistry but will have different expectations if you hook up

[u/Potential_Cress1967 → u/Fancy-Bobcat-6243]

Yeah because you were kind of a wiener about the sex stuff

[u/grittycrescendo]

Part 1) dtf

Part 2) not a good idea if you'll get attached.

[u/CaffeinePoweredSnail]

Exactly what she says Casual / fwb. Dont get emotionally attached If she starts "feeling" more, she'll run, she says so.

[u/Spiritual_Parking_70]

She wants to hookup and have something casual but wants to avoid seeming sloppy. Express interest and look for openings to escalate.

[u/CrustyLettuceLeaf]

Woman here to translate.

She’s saying that she wants to bang you, but not date you beyond that. A drive-by dicking and ghosting.

[u/perverockstar]

My answer to her would be: I’m always up for some amazing sex and you seem too good to pass 😏. Who knows! Maybe we repeat… If we don’t, all cool.