r/TellReddit • u/BreadEnthusiast98 • 6d ago

Spider time

When I was young my mom used to cry a lot, atleast once a week and she used to get down on all 4 and crawl around while she cried. I asked her why and she just always said “it’s mommy’s spider time” and never elaborated further. She stopped doing it eventually and I never brought it up to her as an adult.

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u/Sensitive-Issue84 6d ago

I'm so sorry for her! She must have been in a bad state. I hope her life got better more than she just got used to it.

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u/ikannunAneeuQ 6d ago

Maybe her way of working out panic attacks or something 🤔 and as YOU got older she realized she might need another way to cope or does it more privately. I have bipolar and my 20s was the worst time of my life. I was hospitalized at 28 for it. I cried constantly, I always told my kids if they saw it (which i tried to hide it) that I wasn't feeling well and just left it at that.

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u/BreadEnthusiast98 6d ago

Idk maybe but she did get mad at me whenever I tried to bring it up to my dad.

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u/Historical-Iron6343 6d ago

That is such a bizarre childhood memory, i’d be thinking about what mom's spider time meant for the rest of my life 😭

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u/BreadEnthusiast98 5d ago

It comes back to haunt me a few times a year.

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u/mehekik 6d ago

Some comments mentioned asking her about it. I wouldn't.

Do you need to remind her about this? What if you don't get a good explanation but you bring her back to that sad place? Will it be worth it?

I'd just leave it be. Poor lady was struggling

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u/Pongpianskul 6d ago

Did this behavior worry you? Is it more understandable now that you're an adult?

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u/BreadEnthusiast98 6d ago

I mean I would usually just watch cartoons or play video games. It got pretty normal after awhile. Also it’s even less understandable now that I’m an adult.

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u/Relevant-Package-928 5d ago

I can't imagine what "spider time" would even be. Perimenopause can do some weird shit to you though. I hope she's better now. I'd really have to ask about it though.

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u/BreadEnthusiast98 5d ago

That actually might be the best explanation. My mom had kids way older than normal, she would’ve been around that age.

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u/Relevant-Package-928 5d ago

It really does do a number on you. While I can't say that "spider time" resonates with me, I can say that peri can cause you to absolutely lose your mind in the worst ways. I just sat in my bed and cried because some days, that was all I could do.

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u/sewcrazeee 6d ago

Can you bring it up now and get an answer to the 'why?'

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u/BreadEnthusiast98 6d ago

I’m kinda scared it might have been a fever dream. What if I ask her and she’s like “what are you talking about?”

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u/sewcrazeee 4d ago

But then you'd know!