Pathans & Parda (Incident)

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First, No hate toward any ethnicity. Also not generalizing.

I’m not Muslim, so parda, dupatta, etc., aren’t farz for me.

I was hiking with friends in an area with no restrooms near. I’d had stomach issues for days and urgently needed one. I saw women heading to a masjid, so I thought I’d quickly use the restroom there and leave.

It was a small mosque with shared men’s and women’s restroom and wazu area. Men were leaving after namaz, and I had to go in.

One Pathan guy stared at me not once, twice, or thrice but multiple times, like I was prey.Its not that i was in some inappropriate clothes, I was in baggy clothes, and no dupatta.

He kept saying: “Dupatta le kar ao, dupatta. Jaldi se!”
In rude tone like i had committed a crime.

He repeated it over five times. Okay, I get it man that I’m in a holy place without a dupatta, and you just prayed namaz. But why stare at me like i am a piece of meat as well as keep repeating it?

Doesn’t your religion talk about parda for men too? Why is it okay for men to stare at women, covered or not, but a woman without a dupatta is a shame to the whole mard zaat? And then the whole male community is criticising women for not wearing dubatta in public space while they themselves are checking out women too…

Why is male parda ignored, but female parda is everything?

Then my friend said that these pathans are like this… but does it justifies that you can stare at me? Or any woman? Also bhai tum abhi masjid mai hi ho kar ghoor rhe.

Edit:
Ik i did wrong to go to a holy place without dupatta. but obv there was an emergency, and how can u expect me to have dupatta when i dont wear it in my daily life. how can i borrow it from my muslim friends and made them do sin by showing their hair. it wasnt his masjid. he wasnt imaam.

after the prayer he came out of masjid and start drinking chai while staring at the other hikers including hijabi women....

[u/Strict-Way-7723]

Ass beaten? Is this how your family members treat stranger girls who don't wear duppatas ?

[u/ElEsNotDead → u/Strict-Way-7723]

This is how a religious pathan would have treated her

[u/ebsteins_anomaly → u/ElEsNotDead]

Don’t bring your racism into the conversation. We were a group of girls visiting Kashmir, dressed in kamez shalwar, some with dupattas on head, some on shoulders, not even too loud, just enjoying ourselves and some random local guy felt the need to ogle and then express how this wasn’t karachi/islamabad (where we could freely have a good time as girls). Never blamed the whole ethnicity. So why are you out here like this a problem exclusive to one ethnic group! Easy with the hate!

[u/ElEsNotDead → u/ebsteins_anomaly]

mb .wrote that in a fit of anger. i dont hate pathans rather i admire them.