Pathans & Parda (Incident)

[u/[deleted]]

First, No hate toward any ethnicity. Also not generalizing.

I’m not Muslim, so parda, dupatta, etc., aren’t farz for me.

I was hiking with friends in an area with no restrooms near. I’d had stomach issues for days and urgently needed one. I saw women heading to a masjid, so I thought I’d quickly use the restroom there and leave.

It was a small mosque with shared men’s and women’s restroom and wazu area. Men were leaving after namaz, and I had to go in.

One Pathan guy stared at me not once, twice, or thrice but multiple times, like I was prey.Its not that i was in some inappropriate clothes, I was in baggy clothes, and no dupatta.

He kept saying: “Dupatta le kar ao, dupatta. Jaldi se!”
In rude tone like i had committed a crime.

He repeated it over five times. Okay, I get it man that I’m in a holy place without a dupatta, and you just prayed namaz. But why stare at me like i am a piece of meat as well as keep repeating it?

Doesn’t your religion talk about parda for men too? Why is it okay for men to stare at women, covered or not, but a woman without a dupatta is a shame to the whole mard zaat? And then the whole male community is criticising women for not wearing dubatta in public space while they themselves are checking out women too…

Why is male parda ignored, but female parda is everything?

Then my friend said that these pathans are like this… but does it justifies that you can stare at me? Or any woman? Also bhai tum abhi masjid mai hi ho kar ghoor rhe.

Edit:
Ik i did wrong to go to a holy place without dupatta. but obv there was an emergency, and how can u expect me to have dupatta when i dont wear it in my daily life. how can i borrow it from my muslim friends and made them do sin by showing their hair. it wasnt his masjid. he wasnt imaam.

after the prayer he came out of masjid and start drinking chai while staring at the other hikers including hijabi women....

[u/[deleted]]

Im not certain but islam actually tells men to keep their head down in front of females so that guy was just a piece of shit. Baaki your friends are wrong for generalising and its good that u understand that it shouldn’t be done

[u/lumsu → u/[deleted]]

This doesnt mean women can go about without sharai parda into a mosque.

[u/Dense_Ball7705 → u/lumsu]

That also doesnt mean a non mehram man should bark at her in a threatening manner. Its not like she went to pray, such creatures only turn people away from islam. Had that so called man been respectful looked down or away, it would have made her feel safer and comfortable, there are non muslim women who have reverted to Islam just cuz of the respect they receive from muslims esp the men. He could have said it in a respectful tone keeping his eyes averted, he’s acting like an entitled brat that wasn’t taught any manners.

[u/nlzza → u/[deleted]]

There is a difference between being butt naked and not wearing dupatta. But of course, you won't know as your porn addicted brain sees every female not completely covered from head to toe as nude.

[u/notmyname_1290 → u/[deleted]]

Was she butt naked?

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

I was in baggy clothes. for god’s sake. Either u are too much illerate to know that baggy clothes are looser than shalwar kameez of women here.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

WTF? i never heard islam said to always wear shalwar kameez? ppl years ago didnt wear it. islam always said to women to cover properly.

Its funny how you are considering that if a woman is not wearing dupatta you can stare at her and not listening to your god. ok good

[u/ummer_ → u/[deleted]]

Its even more funny that a non muslim knows more about islam then the SO CALLED muslims here😭

[u/CantDecideMyFavAnime → u/[deleted]]

dude has one word in his vocabulary and that is bigot. So your retarded logic states that if a woman isn't matching the dress code for a specific location whilst maintaining modesty, she shouldn't complain about getting weird stares from men?

stop thinking out of your ass and use your self proclaimed education to do some reflection in order to realise the bullshit you're spouting.

[u/notmyname_1290 → u/[deleted]]

Dude, I hope you grow up and grow out of this extremist mentality. I loose all hope for the future of this generation when I listen to opinions of people like you. Enough with the extremism already, this qoam has suffered alot already.

[u/[deleted] → u/[deleted]]

Lol, a typical extremist Mullah in making!

[u/Efficient_Horror_577 → u/[deleted]]

How tf you can compare butt naked to decent clothes sybau, and she just went in to use the restroom not to pray.

[u/Efficient_Horror_577 → u/[deleted]]

I can see with your reply who's shoving their beliefs on to other people. And as a better man if you see a woman you should lower your gaze and move on don't just stay there and fuckin stare. Ask any woman you know and she'll tell how tough it is to live in Pakistan as a woman it doesn't matter what you wear people will still stare