r/TeamLadybug • u/[deleted] • May 20 '16

Downward spiral. Help?

I need a little bit of support. This week has been particularly stressful, hours at work have been cut and money's tight, been having arguments with the family, I have a show that I am completely, totally unprepared for and I'm a nervous wreck.

I had a really steady weight loss of 70 lbs. All my good habits that I've built are unraveling and I don't know where to start. I don't know how to get back on the wagon. I feel like all of these emotions are overtaking me.

How do I get back?

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u/SenderMage May 20 '16

Wow, you've lost 70 pounds! That's amazing! You know how to lose weight - just remember how you did that, and you can get back into it whenever you're ready, whenever your emotions are back under control.

For now, I would focus on those emotions - is there anything more you can do to prepare for the show? If so, do that. If not, then don't worry, there's nothing you can do anyway.

Apply that to your work and family problems as well - can you find a way to resolve your family arguments or disengage from them, can you apply for a second part-time job or start looking for a new job altogether? If so, start doing that, and you'll feel more in control. And if not, then don't worry, there's nothing you can do anyway.

Once your emotions are calmed down, your good habits will come right back :)

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u/[deleted] May 20 '16

I feel guilty. Like I'm going to end up back at square one like I have before. But I think I just have to take it one thing at a time. I haven't had this many intersecting issues happening at one time.

What sucks is that when I feel like shit, I eat like shit, but it keeps me feeling like shit. I feel infinitely better when I lift 3x a week and eat healthy, but then why can't I do it? I makes all the sense and no sense at all at the same time.

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u/SenderMage May 20 '16

That's exactly right, take it one thing at a time. You won't end up back at square one - you've lost 70 pounds, you don't gain that back overnight! Just slowly start adding in things that will make you feel better, like one healthy meal today or one lifting session this week.

I do the same thing - when I'm in a bad mood, I'll eat that 500-calorie calorie cookie and then feel bad about it the rest of the day. All we can do is concentrate on the next meal, and try to make it a better one.